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My best friends think I'm stupid
I used to be really smart, and my friends respected me for it. All A's, president of clubs, etc. I fell into a mild depression and school got put on the back burner- people lost their respect for me and I lost my confidence. I'm not sure what to do, I know it seems like a pity problem. But my best friend won't even ride in a car with me because she doesn't think I'm responsible.
How do I earn people's respect back?
Its going to take a while to return my grades back, but I feel like even if I tell people I know I'm responsible they won't believe me.
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You are better off without these idiots. Real friends are not judgmental especially of someone with depression or a mental illness of any nature.
Odds are they're scared of you or it and or have been educated by their parents to be cold towards you. Or perhaps they think erroneously that they must walk on broken glass. If they have no respect for you then I say screw them.
Find other people to be friends with because NOBODY has any right to shun you or treat you badly over something you can't help. As far school goes due your best and don't worry about A's or B's. Top grades come when they come.
It's actually wrong for teachers or yourself to think that you can get A's or be on top of anything but your own health which is your ultimate priority right now. It's natural to feel weakened or disengaged after being put on medication or dealing with a mental illness no matter how mild.
You'll pick up at school eventually. In the mean time don't drive yourself nuts for grades. As long as you are trying that's what matters speak to your teachers about your medication, diagnoses and how it's hurting your school work. They may have some ideas to help you.
As far as your friend goes she's pretty ignorant. You need to tell her "I may have depression but nothing has changed except your attitude. I'm still responsible and licensed to operate this vehicle. If you don't like it than find a new friend and take the bus."
You have to stand up for yourself, choose your battles wisely and kick certain people's asses for judging you. Do that only when it's worth it. The bottom line is that everyone around you is ignorant or fearful.
After that don't justify grades, behavior, or any changes to anyone else as you don't have to. You better believe one thing anti-depressants and your illness will impact your concentration and performance in school. I wouldn't be surprised if you feel as though you have cotton between your ears when it comes to school and thinking. It's common talk to your doctor.
Are you drinking tons of water? This can affect how you are feeling and performing if on certain drugs. Drink more several times a day.
Confidence will come gradually. Surround yourself with a new circle of friends who are supportive and try joining clubs inside and outside of schools. You need to chuck some of these people aside that you mentioned.
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This is a ladder you will have to take. Step by step you will recieve things you've lost in the previous years.
1. You won't get your friends right away. So first get yourself back into one peice like you use to. You won't be able to jump right into what you use to be...so take it slow. First just get your grades up. Try your hardest. When you recieve good grades you will recieve confidence. You will feel good inside. Its all about you! It will take a while but this is the first step. And only do this as your first step. NOTHING else. Concentrate on yourself and your grades.
2. Start joining clubs after you get your grades up. Due to your grades getting better you will have more confidence. Do stuff that you like to do. You will be able to make some new friends this way perhaps. While doing this sports, commit to it and also continue to keepng good grades. Do not fall due to sports. YOu have to keep yourself high up.
3. After you prove that you can be responsible, people will be trusting you more. Its going to be a long ladder because the first step is the hardest. You will not recieve respect from others unless you respect yourself. You can't jump right into something either. After you begin to respect yourself and trust yourself, things will fall into place. Its not going to be easy, but it will be worth it. After you have confidence in yourself, people will start realzing your are respsonible and belive you...see who you really are.
Find your inner strength and step onto the first step of the ladder! After your confidence is high enough, you will be cruising up the ladder. At the top will be your friend...beliving in you and you wil be beleiving in yourself.
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okay, look. it's not all about getting respect really. we all go through depressing time, but you need to tell your friends why your depressed or whatever and have them understand. if they dont think your responsible then i don't really see how you can consider them "friends". "friends" trust eachother no matter the cost. all you've got is to try your hardest with your grades, do more exciting things to get yourself out of that depression stage. have some time out with your friends, tell them how you feel. but remember, its not all about being respected for your intelligence" and your "good brains" its about having friends that care.
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I don't have alot of advice for this one but maybe just do somethings to prove you are reposinble. Dont tell them you are SHOW them.
theyll believe it when they see it
Hop0e i helped!
-amnes
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