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Why am I feeling so bummed? I had liked the guy for years...
ok, so there was this guy that I liked for a long time. A little while ago I decided I didn't like him anymore (even though part of me still went back to liking him whenever eye-connection was made or we talked) sometimes I still think about him, and I think I noticed that no, i'm not completely over him. I know that we've had a past for liking each other quite a bit, and then one of my friends started liking him in october.
Now, yes, they are going out. I haven't told anyone that it bugs me, just now they are bf & gf and get to do all that girlfriend boyfriend stuff I would think about.
Also I kinda like another guy now, but i'm kinda confused why I'm feeling so down.
Because I really do still like that guy who I've liked for a LOT longer than just October, or am I just jealous that I never got the chance with him? A bit of both maybe?
I have to admit I was really shy with him the past years & now am just getting more confident (before I would lie about liking him when he didn't lie about liking me). So yeah, I had really messed up, though this year im not nearly as shy & had decided I wouldn't lie anymore about it, though I also was sure I lost all my chances because I had so many. Now I'm regretting it again I think?
I'm just confused with my bummed-ness :P
also didn't tell my friend that I'm bummedbecause, I thought it would maybe ruin things for her? Idk, idk even if I should have told her.
I haven't tld anyone, I kindawanna keep quiet about it, not sure which of my friends to talk to if I even should..
btw that guy I'm kinda crushing on now has been calling me pretty & beautiful (and has gone through phases of that ever since coming to our school last year, kinda has asked meout about twice too). Also one time he called that guy a jerk for saying something rude about me & can be really nice to me, though not always so nice to others.. maybe its just a show though. He can also say some gross things sometimes. What do you think about him?
I hope I'm not coming across as wanting to ruin a friendship or breaking them apart or anything. Just kinda confused with why I'm feeling how I am ^.^
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Hun, you don't need to wait for a guy. Maybe you did ruin your chances with him, but everything happens for a reason. Even if we don't know what those reasons are. Maybe it is a way to tell you that trying for this relationship you going to get a broken heart in the end and being friends if better than a broken heart and not being friends. This guy you are crushing on, seems to like you back, The gross things and stuff are just flaws. Everyone has them. When my fiance and I are started dating he used to fart and burp around me all the time. I thought it was gross but it was his way of being comfortable around me. Id rather him be comfortable rather than uncomfortable. We used to walk around a store and be like she or he has a nice butt. We were ujst comfortable around each other and maybe he feels as if he can be comfortable around you. Maybe giving him a chance wouldn't hurt.
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lol, that is long! But you really need to tell the guy how you feel. Maybe he was just getting sick and tired of waiting for you and he wanted someone new. By the way, if that new guy is being nice to you and not a whole lot of other people, it's probably because he does like you. But if you say no, then he will probably be mean to you. If you say yes, then you need to think about how that might affect some of your friends, but I would say no because what if something happens and you get a chance with the guy that you have liked longer.(Back to the other guy) If I were you, I would tell my friend. I am very open with my friends about how I feel about a guy if they feel the same way bout a guy. You need to explain to your friend how you feel and then tell her that you are comfortable with them dating but will deal with it since you don't want them to break up. Then you need to truthfully tell the guy how you feel. If you don't, you may not have a chance to with him, at all.
Message me if you need more advice-Ataura 14/f
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hey sweetie, i know exactly what your going through because i went through it for three years. i tried to get over him, we never did date or anything but we both knew we had feelings for each other. i think he thought i didn't like him like that, and only as my best friend and he moved on and got a girlfriend who he has now been going out with for two and a half years. it's probably one of the hardest things i've been dealing with. i think you feel bummed out because you didn't get a chance with him, and you feel like it's your fault because you didn't show how you truly felt and i feel the exact same way. i wish i could of done things differently, i wish i could of had more courage and told him flat out i liked him because maybe that could of been me, instead of her. i know how you feel about having so many chances, i had many opportunities too and i didn't take them and i do regret it alot. i think about how different it could of been if i would of had more courage, but the past is the past. i didn't tell any of my friends, i denied it all the time because i didn't want anyone to know how jealous i was of his girlfriend, and how much i still liked him because they would of thought i was crazy. if your starting to like this other guy, go for it. i wish i could have feelings for ANYONE else, i wish i could move on but it's too hard for me and if you can, please take the chance. don't waste your time on that guy, you have another guy who likes you and who wants you. you can talk to your friend who is going out with that guy if you'd like, and tell her how it hurt you how she went out with him but that you hope she is happy, and that you will move on and also be happy. maybe your friend didn't know that it hurt you so much that she went out with him, i'm like 99.9% sure she would never want to do anything that would ever hurt you, and i'm sure she will understand where your coming from. tell her your intentions aren't to break them up, but you just wanted to get that off your chest and i know it will make you feel better. don't miss the chance with the new boy, just see how things work out. maybe he is the right one for you, maybe he isn't but it's worth a shot :) if you need anything, i'm always here to talk. i know what you're dealing with. you can always come to me with situations like this. good luck, i know things will work out for the best ♥ LU
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