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How to move on?
A year ago I left a 6 yr job as a manager that I absolutely loved, but left because my boss was making my life miserable. He wasn't onsite all of the time, and apparently a disgruntled employee had complained about me, so he came to the location while I was gone on vacation began what he called an investigation. I was blind sided the minute I returned from vacation. He wrote me up for 6 different infractions, that had little to no truth, but I did not dispute these infractions because I was honestly afraid of him, and I knew because of similar situations with other managers, the company would back him anyway.
Once I left I wrote a letter stating the facts and explained the situation, but of course I did not get any response from them. I even tried to make the letter on a positive note as so not to burn my bridges so to speak.
I had never been disciplined in all my 25 years of working, and never did anything while at this job to deserve this. In fact, I pretty much had dedicated my life to this place and had a strong record of improvments in their business.
So instead of fighting for my rights, I put in my notice. Several of my employees (under me) also quit after I left and the majority thought this was very unfair.
I should note that they did not replace me---so in fact I feel he was forcing me out the door due to the profit margin of the business, especially since my disciplinary action was crazy...for all kinds of very minor things that were not as he stated. This company did the same thing to other managers about the same time.
I started my own business, which in this economy is not going well, and I am now searching for a new job. My skills were always very marketable before, and now I am lucky to even land an interview. I am wondering what this corporation may be saying about me?
Anyway, back to my real concern here. I really really miss the people I worked with, but still harbor so much resentment for what happened--and the reason I left. Maybe it is me blocking my own career process because I am so bitter about how my last job came to an end. I just can't seem to put it all behind me. Former--and some current employees still contact me just to see how I am doing, but it's been too painful for me to visit the old workplace or to get together with them. I have avoided dealing with it. I am still, after a year,am angry and hurt. Any ideas how to move on? I am not planning on investing money that I don't have in a counselor, so please don't suggest that.
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Moving on, whether is from an old job or boyfriend, is never easy.
The best way is to try to move on, is by considering the bad things about that old job. For instance: Did you get too much work?
There's never a sure way to get over something or someone, it takes time.
And face the situation. Go into the workplace and greet your former co-workers. Pretend you're happy, even if you have to end up going home crying. Facing the 'problem' will help in alot of ways.
Good luck!
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It seems that your record should have spoken for itself. It's unfortunate that you didn't fight for your job. You should have gotten together with the others in that situation and demanded a proper investigation. Unless you're willing to sue for wrongful termination, or can find anyone still employed there who is willing to push for an investigation, I'm afraid there's really nothing you can do.
Starting your own business now is very difficult, as you know. This economy is harsh. The only thing you can do is keep pounding the pavement. If you feel someone is badmouthing you, and are still in communication with your former work mates, see if they can suggest someone who would better serve as a contact on your applications.
You'll be angry and hurt for a while. An injustice has been done. But once you start working things will get better and you'll be glad you're out of that place. Then it will be easier to get together with your old friends. Give it some time.
Good luck
L.C.
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