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Tolerating people...
Ok here's the prob. I have a major problem tolerating annoying people. Example people who say they don't like Obama only for the fact he's black. I don't care what there opinion is but if that's the only reason then really it makes me just want to punch them in the throat. And then I have to read this really long book in a group and these two people, all they do is flirt all the time and poke each other. I ended up having to do all the work and really it PISSES me off sooo bad. Please help me before I kick someone's knee caps in.
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Wow, you and I are living parallel lives my friend. I am severely annoyed by the same things myself, and I used to have a lot of trouble in my life over it. In fact I actually bitch-slapped my supervisor for playing that pokey flirty game with a new girl. I got fired for that by the way. That is the point. Don't ruin your day by having it effect you so much. I came to realize that there is absolutely NOTHING I can do to change these people except to lead by example. I also noticed that I am not the only one that sees this stuff going on; even though it seems like when they say that stupid crap it's ok , but if you or I made that same Obama remark someone would get pissed at you and say you are racist.
However you don't need to withdraw or NOT say anything; you just need to stop and think of how to say it.
Like for instance the Obama thing you could reply, "Wow!! I would've never taken you for a racist." or change the subject to one that suits you like "Race isn't the issue to me, my problem is ...blah blah blah" and control the conversation.
As for the poking and flirting. I would have no problem asking if they are embarrassed to have me do all their work while they flirted?
That is another situation too where other people see that it's happening. I mean honestly besides tattling or whining , what can you really do?
You can make sure to say something to them first, then just do the best job that you possibly can. There are two good things that will come from that 1. Whatever project you are doing will get to be mostly of your design.
2. Whoever is in charge does notice that that is happening and you will either get more credit than they will or more respect.
If as a last resort all this fails to give you any satisfaction at all. You can weigh all the pro's and all the cons, and if the math works out for you.
Go ahead and punch the jerkoff in the throat.
Sometimes the satisfaction of standing up for yourself is worth the consequences. I mean probably 1 day in jail, 1 assault in the 4th degree, 26 anger management classes at $30 a piece, 1 year probation, and a $750 fine.
If you already have a police record most of that won't even effect your future.
Good Luck man...deep breaths ...deep breaths
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I know exactly how you feel!!! (about the flirting part and doing all the work in the group)
I have this friend who flirts with everyone even though she has a boyfriend. Pisses me off. So the next time they do it ask them when the due date of their baby is or to get a room.
If they don't do any of the work then neither should you. Just don't do it. Sounds like your a pretty good student and they arn't so if it isn't going to hurt your grade then don't do it. They'll suffer. Or you could just go and tell the teacher.
When you feel like this you should walk away or take deep breaths.
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