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loveee is confusing
Ill try to make it as short as possible.
I've always been a hopeless romantic. I'm 17 years old and a few weeks ago i met the perfect guy...or so i thought. he was exactly my type and seemed to be completely into me. he acted so sweet and treated me just like a girlfriend. we went out a few times, and were together in school. everyone was talking about us being together, which i didn't really like because technically he never asked me to be his girlfriend. i was really falling for him and i think it showed, because it was hard to say no whenever he wanted to hang out. and the thing is, i know better. ive had my heart broken before by the same type of charmer and i really tried not putting all my feelings into this new guy. thing is i dont like to play games. i always treat people right and dont believe in hurting someone or making them jealous just to make them want me. i dont do that, and i thought he didnt either because we talked about it. i thought we were the same type of person, but hes a guy...and they lie...
so in the past few days he stopped being so sweet, and showing less interest in me, and just forgetting about me, but then randomly showing up like he cares and giving interest. he became randomly cold and then sweet. I'm really confused and kind of hurt. did he really lose interest or is he playing games? he randomly shows interest and then doesn't, when he was always sweet in the beginning. and i cant say anything because he never actually asked me to be his girlfriend. still he expects me to call him and always let him know what I'm doing. what happened? and if he has moved on y is he still showing interest??? can anyone make sense of this????
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And I was on that same boat, sailing through that same path. IT was great, people in school - even teachers! thought so, but we never made it official. I never made it official, because I didn't think labels were ever needed, we just.. were. But from my mistake- i've learned its better to have things open and clear, rather than bottled and foggy. I never liked to play those games either, it's so stupid to make someone deliberately jealous. So if that's the way it came off- you must know, he does it for you. Not to hurt you, but to make him appear more wanting, espcially if he knows you seen him so maybe he thinks you were losing interest. I don't know. Plain and simple I cannot even begin to fathom the understanding of what you're going through. Only through experience-.But never.. never never think you did anything wrong. Things just happen. Have you asked him if something happened? You deserve to know because don't just go on the assumption that his reasons are justified alone. You must hate making things serious, but sometimes it's needed. That was another mistake I let go. And it is a game. Relationships , for the very word- is a game. We are merely players in this world, and I think you have to accept that. If you ever meet a guy who doesn't play- he won't be interesting. So, play the game, but don't let yourself get hurt, don't show him your moves on the first play. And yes, never ever tell someone you like them till you are positive. So besides the advice already given which was GReat. But I don't think being physical early (when is early?) is a bad thing, it just means you feel more comfortable. It's tricky since there are so many ways to look at it. If you are only putting on a mask to show you don't care for him -but really you do, than you're only fooling yourself, really. Don't pretend he doesn't exist, thats just consciously putting effort into something that you're showing to be important. So if he talks to you, just be yourself, maybe not as you used to be with him (flirting intended)) but as you are with other people. Well , if he acts cold. Be warmer, nothing is more worse when two people are cold to one another just because that person is cold to them, you never know who started it and you will just be chipping the ice even deeper. Question yourself "why".. really. WHY DO you like him?! i'm sure you'll find the answer easy. he may still like you and is just playing hard to get or maybe he's afraid of the relationships capability. Have you been doing the same thing, maybe its different through his eyes.
i hope this helped and im sorry for my incoherent sentences.
I try.
Best of luck! and i'll be awaiting any responses.
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trust me, i'm going through the same thing.Its like one day he'll be really flirty with you,the next? not even a single glance. What i've found out about me and this kind of boy, is once a player,always a player. nothing more. it hurts, because they make you fall for them and then throw you out. You don't need someone like that; and you obviously don't have too much in common with him, seeing as you're not the time of person to play games.which is good! When you find a good someone,they'll treat you like gold. Do you think he's seeing other girls? Trust your instinct. He'll try to make you wait until he needs you. Move on, don't give him any excuse to come back to you either. You shouldn't have to wait for anybody. Some one who's really into you;doesn't ignore you for days. Don't call him. Don't look at him as much in school. Once you start ignoring him,he'll probably come to you. But you still can't fall for him then,he just wants you to be "there". Soon he'll know to leave you alone. He'll fade, trust me. Most players like this put on their best faces at first, to get you hooked;then slowly will change. In my opinion, you have to get to know the person for awhile before you say you like them. It helps with filtering out players. If a guy gets physical(sp?) early in a relationship, thats a red light as well. Bottom line, i think you should drop him like he wasn't even importent.If anyone asks,just say YOU lost interest. It'll burn his player status that he trys to keep. Players are insecure. they feel like they need to be a player to be cool. If you drop one of them, they'll try to get you back. Leave him! good luck,you'll get through this!
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