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I need some advice
Hello,
I need some advice. I'm 21/male and my boyfriend is 26/male. My boyfriend recently wanted to break up with me because I told him I am bisexual and that I rather not adopt and have a biological child. What do you think I should do? Do you think I'm wasting my time? I want to make things work out for the best of us.
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First, let me apologize for the response time.
With that said, I think you should make sure you and your boyfriend reflect on the (lack of) urgency of this issue. You are both young, and by the time the decision will need to be made you both may have changed your minds. I understand your desire to pass on your genes, but your real legacy is the impact you two will have on the development of your kid, not so much whose biological material they are made of. But if you're really set on it, there is artificial insemination. You also have to keep in mind that your boyfriend may not be upset with the idea that you want your own child, but that he feels threatened that he cannot provide you with one.
Do I think this is something to break up over? Absolutely not. You should both be lucky that you see eye-to-eye on the desire to raise a child together. The details can be worked out later.
You need to let him know that he can fulfill your needs even though he is not a chick, and you need to remember that your partner is (at the least) going to be the second-greatest influence on your kid's life, so treat each other well.
Hope everything works out, please come back if you need anything else!
**The Giving Tree
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