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can someone change you?
is it possible for someone else to change you who are? my best guy friend has been going out with his girlfriend for three years and he completely changed and i think she changed him. the thing is i always hear people saying "you can not change someone, you can only change yourself" but i know this is not how he wants to be because i have talked to him about it so many times. she pretty much made him lose all his friends, including me (we were friends for four years..) because she wants to be with him 24/7 and he said he feels bad saying no to her. i hate how he is when he is with her, he is so different than when i knew him before he went out with her. it's like he only wants me when she is not around, and that does not fly with me. i just don't understand, like am i wrong for thinking she changed him?
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Perhaps better to say, you can't change someone else without their permission.
'Blaming' someone else for a change in your friend is as pointless as it is misguided. If he didn't want the change, he could change back or resist it. If he REALLY didn't want to limit his other friendships, he wouldn't. Him feeling 'guilty' isn't her fault, it's his fault for being a pussy.
So yes, you are wrong for thinking she 'changed' him. She's probably just been her own, naturally clingy self. That might not be pleasant, but it doesn't make everything her fault.
Besides, it's been three years. He was going to change over that length of time. That is a given. People change a lot in three years, especially as teens or young adults. If this is the way he's chosen to grow, then that is his choice. By all means, tell him what you think of it, but don't blame her, take him to task on his behavior, not his relationship.
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