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Friends
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I have a lot of friends. But ever since we started high school we started splitting up more. I don't really have a problem with it anymore. Me and my friend still hang out with a couple of our other friends. But its kinda getting old. I want different friends. I don't want to lose these ones but its just not as fun as it use to be. I find it more fun to be with different people I met this year. I'm not a person who talks a lot. But I can if I wanted to. All my friend does is say, "oh you don't talk at all. you need to talk more...ect." Its getting annoying. But its always at the end of the day when I'm tired. She doesn't get that. She talks a lot like non stop. I mean I love her and all its just idk. She says I'm weird and stuff and I know she is joking around with me but she kinda brings me down. Like she will point out dumb stuff I do on accident and how I look and stuff. I have low self esteem so it doesn't help much. I can be a really confident person...when I'm not around her though. I don't really want to talk to her about this. I know I should but there isn't much I'll be able to do about it. So thats out. My question is how can have different friends being that I'm super shy with people I don't talk to. And how do I ignore the way she talks to me even though its not helping me do any better. Sorry it was long and thanks alot!
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wow, i can really relate to you. I was in this same situation. I'm still in it. I think that your friend does this to you to bring herself up. That is how she keeps her selft esteem up. It seems like she has a low selfesteem, which she is probably hiding, and so she has to be negative towards you, so she can see you all down. Bringing her to a high! that is exactly what my friends do to me. And it gets on my nerves. But you can just try your best to ignore your friend when she does this stuff to you. Act normal like how you do, and show her that what she is saying doesn't affect you. Because she is looking for you to react to what she is saying. I don't kno if i'm making sense. Be yourself around them by just being you. Don't think about the things your friend has said to you, because it seems like she is having her own issues. Be you, and they will love you for who you are. And try not to think about what they think about ur personality, because everyone's personality is different, people are different...and the way you are, is what makes you. You are unique. I hope this helped. goodluck.
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Okay so I just started my freshman year this year as well. And I first found myself in a similar position you're in. My friend we'll call her Alice.
Was my closest friend we hung out every day but we fought all the time and she always made me feel bad about myself she'd say things like you're so dumb, she always called me stupid. She had to always be right in every argument and I always gave in. When I was friends with her I didn't really have any other friends.
And well people like her I call "toxic" people.
they never have anything nice to say and always have to be complaining about something.
What you really need to do is step back and think for a second, is there more good or bad things about her.
In my case there were more bad, and it was extremely difficult but we slowly stopped being friends.
And well now I have a lot of friends and might I add I was a very shy and "keep to my self kind of person"
now I'm shy to people I first meet yes but I've met a lot more and am a much happier person and have a much higher self esteem.
I hope this helped!
-Courtney
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