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Am i right to be mad?
Hey i really need this question answered and i hope u can help....
I invited my boyfriend(20years old) to come with me and my family on vacation to my grandparents house in the U.S for thanksgiving shopping. Now hes saying that he wont be able to come because he doesn't have enough money and if he leaves for 4 days his job will fire him before Christmas. Am i wrong to be upset about this? cause i really wanted him to come
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it's okay to be upset because you were excited & wanted him to come. but you can't get angry over the fact that he can't afford it.
if you want him to go so badly, then you need to pay for it & talk to his boss.
losing his job isn't something he wants to go through & you should respect that.
don't be angry at him because of the fact that he doesn't have any money to go with you.
maybe there is a way you guys can work it out? maybe you can help pay, & he can try to request those 4 days off from work.
it's not his fault & it's not that he is purposely not wanting to go, he just can't & if you are a true girlfriend then you need to respect that.
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You are fine to be upset. You are wrong to be bitchy, angry or inconsiderate.
He is twenty years old. Work is important, perhaps one of the most important things he has. Without it, he cannot advance in life right now. It was a probably a sensible choice for him to forgo shopping in order to make money and not make his employer unhappy.
It's not like this is a last minute cancellation either, he is being considerate and giving you fair warning about his responsibilities.
You can be upset, you can be disappointed and you can disagree with him even, but you shouldn't be a brat about it. He probably made a mature decision, and you should respect that even if you don't like it.
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