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Boyfriend Problems :(
Okay, well I kinda snuck out the house at 3am a few weeks ago to go to my boyfriends house and he didn't even know I was going over there he just called me and said "im outside" so I decided to walk out there to see him. Well anyways my parents found out what I did and they think it was all my boyfriends fault that I snuck out even though it was my idea. Well they grounded me from everything and called my boyfriend who I was like in love with and told him never to speak to me again and that I couldn't talk to him anymore. Well that didn't stop me. I been using my friends phone and been texting him and when my parents go to bed I get the house phone and call him at night, but we are broken up. I want to go back out with him, but ill never be able to see him, but im like madly in love with him. Also my parents don't want anything to do with him so what should I do? Like should I go back out with him? or should I just move on and stop talking to him?
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screw your parents...love is love and they can try to stop it but they cant..just try to convince them that u love him and if not rebell
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The answer below is terrible.
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The answer above is terrible too
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"High school relationships don't usually go to marriage, so just let it go and get over it"
If you had just had a bad break up with him because you were fighting, the above might be a more correct answer.
You like him? Do what you can. See him when you can.
The simple fact is, that you have started dating and your parents haven't adjusted yet. Part of the problem here, is you doing things they aren't comfy with, like sneaking out of the house. Thats not a "oh well she's not grown up enough" thing so much as a "we could wake up, and she could be dead, and we'd have no idea until her body was identified by the police". Every parent is terrified of not knowing where their kids are and that they're ok. They're reacting a large amount out of that fear, because they feel they can't trust your judgment.
You need to work up the trust.
Heres what you do.
You talk to them again. Calmly. Tell them that you really like this guy, but you understand that you sneaking out of the house was crossing a very big bad line. Tell them that you won't do things that put you in any possible jeopardy. Tell them that you will abide by your grounding.
Lastly, tell them that you aren't going to never speak to him again. That as your parents its their right to limit your behavior to protect you, and that you understand you can't just go places without their consent, but they cannot tell you who to like or who you are allowed to talk to.
Tell them that you want to talk to him on the phone when your grounding is up. That you're going to see him at school and you're going to talk to him, and that you want to be able to date him (or anyone else) but you want to talk about what would make them comfy enough in the future to let you.
Ask them if they think its ok for you to start dating, and if not why not. Don't get defensive, just listen. When theyre done, ask them if they will take it into consideration that you want to start dating, and would like to work with them so that you can date safely.
Try to get them talking and keep your cool, don't let yourself get angry or upset. Keeping control of yourself and having an adult conversation can open eyes well.
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I would move on. And I'll tell you why. Relationships in your teenage years end most of the time. The likelihood of this love becoming long-term and marriage bound is almost 0%.
Love when you're in high school is about the experience and letting yourself fall and getting your heart broken and breaking some hearts too. It's about making mistakes and learning from them, and figuring out your boundaries.
In all honesty, most teenagers would probably do exactly what you're doing, sneaking around the rules to make it work.
But in the end, the strain of not seeing each other is going to bring this relationship to an end. At the very least, try to look at this love as a sweet memory, and remember in the future not to sneak out of the house or your parents will make your life very difficult for you.
It hurts, I know, but time will take care of that. You'll fall in love again.
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The way you wrote this I can tell that you really have some puppy love with this guy. So if it was up to me I definitely wouldn't let my parents stop me from seeing that person I'm in love with. I say do everything in your power to keep seeing this guy and keep in communication with him like you have been currently doing. And if your parents get too strict than you need to confront them and tell them whats on your mind. I know that they are just looking out for your well-being I mean thats what parents do. But that does not mean that they should interfere with your love life.
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