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My boyfreind likes blonds!
Iv been with my bf for 8 months and he has a obsession with blonds. Which is nothing like me I am have black hair and very curly, but whenever im out with him and he sees a pretty girl whos blond he will stare or he will say oh shes hot and it makes me feel ugly or like shit I dont want to talk to him about it in case he thinks im jelouse or being stupid I dont know what 2 do! Sophie
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I would very calmly the next time he says something like that to you, "oh, she's hot," for you to say to him, "Those are thoughts you should keep to yourself, or I may have to start airing my feelings about the attractive men I see."
Or you could give him the cold shoulder for a long time and when you're good and ready (and he's going nuts) you can calmly explain to him that you've been trying to decide if you want to date a man who says things like that to you because it's disrespectful.
Or you could break up with him.
My only definite advice is to not continue in a situation with a boyfriend where you feel ugly. Either find a calm (I keep saying "calm" because if you're going to cry or shout you'll lose the battle and he'll think you're nuts) way to coldly inform him it won't be tolerated, or leave.
And don't worry about coming off as cold about this either, either. It'll put him on his toes, make him a little nervous and make him realize he doesn't have you so far under his thumb that he can treat you so rudely. Because it's when guys think they've got you for sure that this nonsense tends to surface.
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