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guilty sex
today i cheated on my boyfriend of 8 months (don't tell me im a skank or anything like that because i obviously think i made a big mistake)
i was at my ex's house, seeing his sister and we sat down on his bed when his sis was downstairs, well he kissed me when i turned around and then i kissed back and i kept telling him no and i dont want to but he like kept guilt tripping me and saying nice things like i have pretty eyes and stuff well one thing let to another and we had sex for like a minute and he ended up cumming ha and like he didnt even tell me he was going to or anything he claims he took it out before he did but i dont know..
what do i do from here i seriously do love my boyfriend a lot and i want to stay with him but i dont know what to do next or who to tell or what to say?
please help me!
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I have been in a msimilar situation. I didn't have sex with the guy, but he tried to finger me while i was too intoxicated to know what was going on (seriously bad decision on my part). But we did make out, and I cried for a while thinking about what a terrible thing I did.
Here's your options..
1. Tell your boyfriend and pour your feelings. If you still like this ex, then you should break up with your boyfriend.
2. If you simply got caught up in the moment and just wanted the sex or whatever, then either tell your boy or just keep it the biggest secret ever. That was my decision, and it's been fine. The guy meant nothing to me and I was actualyl disgusted by it. And I have put myself through a lot to kind of punish myself for it.
I just want to say you're not the only one in this situation. While having sex with an ex is definitely not right, things happen. We ALL make mistakes. Anything else, just message me in my inbox (:
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You need to take a step back and reexamine your feelings for both of these boys. Sex is not an accident. You could have stopped this other boy if you truely wanted to. You don't accidentally have sex with someone because they tell you you have pretty eyes. Something, perhaps subconscious said you wanted it, regardless of your saying no. If you live your boyfriend as much as you say then you realize he deserves better.
This is no longer about you, it is about your boyfriend. He has the right to know so he can make the choice to stay with you or not. You have already proven you cannot be trusted in the face of temptation. Your ex likely knows you have a boyfriend but did not respect that. He likely would not think twice about bragging to your boyfriend. Finding out from your ex will only hurt even more. He deserves the choice of moving on to someone he can trust or staying with you and trying to work things out.
I know this is probably not what you were hoping to hear but when you make mistakes you have to face the consequences. Accidents happen, but sex is not an accident.
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Hi,
I'm really not sure if you should tell or not. I don't know what the situation is about your breakup with your ex. Does he know your current boyfriend?
If he does, would her tell him for whatever reason? Sometimes guys do this for revenge or to make the other guy feel bad.
Normally I would say not to tell. When you tell your mate something like that, usually it's just to ease your own guilt and make you feel better. In the meantime, he's going to feel like crap. This is unnecessary pain especially if you know it was a mistake and it's never going to happen again.
Again, I would have to say that it depends on what you think your ex will do about being discrete. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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