|
I can't make this decision!
Here's the situation: I'm 14/f (freshman), and my parents recently got a divorce. My mom is now remarried and my dad has a girlfriend that lives in Florida. Now, the dilemma is, I now have a choice to make. My dad's girlfriend moved up here for a short time but then had to move back because she was unable to sell her house. My dad didn't want to go with her because he didn't want to be away from his kids (four of us). Now, I have the choice to either move to Florida with my dad or stay in Arkansas with my mom. They said I could do whichever and it wouldn't hurt their feelings, but I know I'm going to end up hurting someone. I suppose I'm afraid of change, in a way. I think it would be really fun to move to Florida. I think I'll make new friends and like it better. I'll get to start over, be anyone I want, blah blah blah, etc... But I'm afraid that if I move, I won't be able to return to Arkansas. Not literaly, but meaning, I'd have to forget about the life I've built up here and start over yet again. My old friends will have replaced me and will have tons of inside jokes that I wasn't there for. I'll have missed everything. Then I wouldn't have anywhere to go. However, if I went to Florida and did end up having a better life, I would be glad I did, because life in Arkansas is pretty boring. I just don't know how things will turn out in Florida. I don't know how to make this decision. I've asked my friends and family to help, but of course they are all trying to convince me to do what they want me to do, not what's best for me. I just don't know what to do. I want to move, but yet I don't. I've tried making a list of the upsides and downsides of both, but it's all coming up dead even. I don't want an answer saying "ultimately it's your decision". I don't want it to be my decision. I want it to be someone else's. Just tell me what to do please! Or if you've had a similar situation, what helped you make your decision?! Help PLEASE!? I'm stressing out so much!
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Miscellaneous category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Random Weirdos?
This was an easy one for me. The decision
is yours to make of course, but here is
the way I see it.
You stay with mom. Your friends and other
family are in Arkansas. You have plenty of
time for adventure later.
I don't think a parent should move away
from their children. Divorce happens but
parents should stay close and parent.
Thats their job. Your dad doesn't WANT
to, and I think that's wonderful. But
he is going. Following a lady he isn't
even married to.
She may be a very nice lady, but she
shouldn't come before a mans kids. She
evidently does with him. You will be
moving to HER house. She may not want to
share, it could cause problems and make
your life miserable.
I don't know her of course, just pointing
out some possibilities. In a nutshell, it
isn't you who should be making the tough
decision here. Its your dad. He should be
staying close and putting his kids before
himself or a girlfriend.
]
Wow! This is a really tough decision to make. What i would do is wait another month or so and talk to your mom about moving to florida and how she feels about it. If you did move to florida, you would make new friends so it wouldn't be a big deal that you are leaving your old ones behind because you can still keep in touch. It's your life, live it the way you want. I would have a sit down convo with your mom and dad and ask them what they THINK and how they feel about it all. Hopefully this helps you!
]
Well by what you have said it seems like Florida will be better for you. I mean you can always make new friends and don't worry. I am sure you'll get to come back to Arkansas. Keep in contact with your friends though. That'll help with that situation. Also make sure it's your dad you want to live with. If you are sure about that and you'd like to do that stuff in Florida then go for it. Hope this helps. =]
]
More Questions: |