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well i get into these terrible rages where i just want to do violent things (such as break something, hurt myself, verbally hurt someone else) and i dont know how to cope with them. i absolutely HATE when im like that but its really hard to calm down unless i sleep and thats not an option. and these moods/rages happen kinda often as of lately because of my parents so please help. is there a disease/mental diorder that i might have??? and please what are some ways to deal with this? thank you soo much! i will rate!
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I was exactly like you in every way when I was younger, you described it to the tee. I also thought at one time was this a condidtion, or something mentally wrong with me! It was neither one of these things. It was the extreem stress that I felt living at home. My parents gave me no space, I had no unwind time, no privacy no outlet that was not messed with or taken away. It was the only way to vent and the longer I held all that stress in the bigger the blow up. I would get so angry my whole body would shake uncontrolably. I felt I was on the verge of a nervous break down. Once I found a way to leave home, it stopped. I still got angry at times, but never the same way I did when I lived at home. Overtime I have mellowed out alot. I have control over my anger and never have gotten as mad as I did when I lived at home. I had many reasons that I was angry at my parents, and when I tried to talk with them it fell on def ears. So emotionally I became torn up inside. I would tolerate as much as I could for as long as I could, until it became unbarable and I would have the same reaction that you just described. Once you move get out of the house, you will slowly begin to see change. If after some time you find this does not help or fix the situation, I would really recommend talking to a professional to work out unresolved isses. I hope this helps and I wanted you to know that you are not the only one who is like this. Lets me know if this helps at all, things did get better for me so in my opinion I think yours will too... Keep in touch let me know how your doing ....
Take a deep breath and remember take it onedayatatime
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The simplest and most effective way to deal with anger is to focus on something else long enough to break the angry streak.
Do something that fully occupies you.
- Read a book you enjoy, preferably a comedy
- Play a video game
- Sit down and start taking deep breaths. Count them. Count as high as you have to.
- Imagine your anger is a red balloon in front of you, and watch it float away
The last one sounds absolutely ridiculous, and it is, but I swear to God that it works despite my having stolen it from the show Frasier. I was really pissed off one day, and just did that out of no where, and just stopped being angry (though, I love Frasier so remembering that show and laughing about it helped)
- Something to Practice -
One of the hardest things to do is stopping the anger train and focusing on something else. This is usually because when we try, we have nothing else to focus on, and so we go right back to angry.
Find some time to yourself when you can not be interrupted. Go sit down on the floor on a cushion or something. Sit there, breathe slowly and deeply, and try to focus on nothing. Actively try to not think about ANYTHING except your breathing. Focus on how you breath. Make your breaths shorter, then longer. Pause between breaths and then breathe constantly. Focus on your muscles and the sensation of breathing.
See if you can do this for five minutes straight without thinking about ANYTHING else, even for a second. Its actually alot harder than it seems.
Alot of people get a metronome. Its a small object that ticks every so often keeping a rhythm. Instead of focusing on breathing, people will often focus on the rhythm of the metronome in order to clear their mind of all else.
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When you get angry, remember what it feels like to focus on your breathing, or to focus on the ticks of the metronome. Go back to that place where you clear your mind of all else, and focus on that for a minute. Usually thats enough to calm you down, even if you're still upset about something you won't be freaking out about it anymore.
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i have the same exact problem and i joined a club at school about anger management. But if you don't want to do that when i get really mad and when i was about to hit someone, i usually blast music (screamo!)or scream into a pillow and even take a walk. I hope it heleped!
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Hm... this sometimes is normal for people, but it also could be something more. You might want to see a doctor about it. If you rather not though, you could do relaxing things. Like get a good book, take a bubble bath weekly. Just chill. Please don't hurt yourself or anyone else. I know what this is like. Good luck though. I really hope this helps you.
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