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so nice yet im nervous
so theres this guy i like. he likes me to. and i think we might go out. nd we will hang out, im sure. the thing is.... im nervous b/c ive only hooked up with one boy and what if im a bad kisser? or what if im bad at bj/hj? ppl say he wont care if he likes me. but how can i get better? i dont want to leave a bad impresion.
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what people are telling you is right, if he does really like you he wont care, but dont stress out over it, every guy likes different things, ask him sexual questions to find out more,, im sure he will give you some advice too, the way to get better too is try different things when you mess around, notice the different reactions. just go for it ;)
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You shouldn't worry THAT much, and what people say is quite true! If he REALLY does like you, he'll help you, that is IF you are bad, and if you aren't, he hit the jackpot, now didn't he?
you have to have some self-confidence, for people to believe in you, you have to first!
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Sexual favors are like winning the lottery.
Even if you just win 25 bucks, you're happy.
And as long as we can still play, we know theres always a chance for that jackpot.
Look at it this way. Sex is a skill. Its something that you have to gain experience at, learn, and get better at. Everyone sucks when they start out to some degree.
If all else fails, ask him. "Do you like this? Want me to do something else?"
Communication is a good thing.
Oh, and one other thing.
Hooking up is a terrible idea. Blowjobs, hand jobs, sex, these things are not as casual as a hug or a handshake, or even a kiss.
Several very practical reasons.
1) Hooking up exposes you to STDs. It seems like a ghost risk. I remember in high school, STDs were something that we did sometimes think "Oh that doesnt really happen to anyone"
I found out later, it happened plenty, just that the people who got them were really, really quiet about it.
2) You won't get better through hook ups. Simple as that. If you are with a loving boyfriend in a decent long term relationship, you get to experiment. You can try new things. How does this feel compared to how that felt yesterday, that sort of thing. You will be comfy enough around him to do things like this.
Hook ups? Every time you have any sexual contact will be just like the last. Unfamiliar, and with a guy who more than likely cares much more about getting off than doing anything for you.
The simplest answer to your question is that all sexual contact should be with a guy you are actually officially dating, not with a guy you like after hanging out a few times and thinking that you might want to date him.
How teens got the order of Dating --> Sex so turned around I have no idea.
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