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When she needs her friends most, they aren't there.
I'm a freshman in college, and about a week into school, one of my friends was raped. understandably, she decided to take the semester off to heal. When she told her best friend about what happened to her, the friend stopped talking to her all together (up to that point, they had talked multiple times a day, every day). Now she's home again, and another friend is taking time off just because she hates her school. This girl heard what happened to my friend through the grapevine, and now refuses to talk to her as well. My friend already blames herself for everything that happened, and it's just terrible that the people who are most supportive of her right now are back at the college she left behind, the people she's only knew for about a week. is there anything she or i can do to get these crazy friends from home to support her?
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What her "friends" are doing is WRONG.
What happened to her is NOT her fault, NO MATTER WHAT happened that night if she didnt want that to happen it was RAPE. I have been raped, as well as my mom. The cops didnt believe her when it happened and someone else down the street got raped because of it. The cops made her out to be a liar or gross instead of the VICTIM that she was. Your friend needs you most, call dailey, send sweet emails comment her myspace or facebook with things like just thinking about you or hope you are well. Its the little things in life that help. Also your friend needs to get support, they have support groups for rape victims, they have counseling (which your friend really needs to go to). Be there for her, and as for the people that stopped talking to her, that is inhumane, FUCK THEM lol seriously if I were you I would tell them off and tell them what they are doing is WRONG and EVIL. I am so sorry this happened to your friend, she needs someone to talk to or you do I am always here, sometimes a word from a stranger helps the most. Take care, God Bless.
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Yes, go over to her house and just be there for her. Remind her of two very important things:
It wasn't her fault
It wasn't her choice
What her 'friends' are doing is definitely not the right thing. Personally, I would call them up and ask as to why they aren't talking to her anymore, just because she was raped doesn't mean that they need to stop talking to her.
This is now the most crucial time for her and she needs all the support which her friends and family can give her. Why? Because after something like this happens, you can be left psychologically scared and that can change your whole outlook on life and without the support, it could get worse.
Sometimes family isn't enough, sometimes you just need to have you friends around you and this feeling of guilt and blame which you friend is feeling isn't going to go away by itself. It will take a lot of support to get her to become the girl she was before all of this happened.
Her friends need to realize how serious this could get if they don't support her. Like I said, go over to her house if possible and just hang out with her for the day and have fun together, make her feel loved.
Good luck with the future,
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