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hey, okay, i'm a girl, 14, and i'm not fat but i'm not thin either, i would say i'm inbetween.
all my friends have had boyfriends or at least snogged someone. and i want a boyfriend!!! but i flirt, but after that i'm sort of a dud. and when my friends are all on the pull, i feel sort of awkward; because as sad as this is i'm sort of scared about my first kiss... what can i do?
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Honestly? The best thing you can do is wait for the right person to come along. Just because your friends have had boyfriends and kissed boys and you haven't doesn't make you any less "cool" or whatever it is you're feeling.
Think of it this way:
If you go and kiss somebody random, it will be NOWHERE near as special as it would be if it was with somebody that you actually have genuine feelings for. If you just get it over with and go for it with somebody you don't even like, you'll probably end up regretting it in the long run.
I know it may seem hard, but in the end, the wait is totally worth it.
-Laura (16-f)
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This has happen to me before. I have been boyfriendless when all my buds had them I know how you feel. What helped for me was fashion and sports. I started becoming more sporty, but also a fashion queen. It really helped me. Goodluck,
Sarah
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The idea of being scared of your first kiss is TOTALLY normal. I think everyone on earth is scared of their first kiss... and not just their first first kiss but their first kiss with a particular person. If you change boyfriends, you will likely be nervous about your first kiss with the new guy.
I don't know if I am older than I thought or if I just live in a different region of the world than you but I do not actually know what snogging is. I assume it is what we call "making out" rather than actual sex.
Don't put so much focus on your friends. You shouldn't care what your friends have or have not done. This is about YOU. You should wait until you find that special someone to share your first kiss. This is a guy you are going to remember for the rest of your life (trust me!!) and if you just do it with anyone to get it overwith or out of the way, think of what kind of memory you will have when you are 80 having this conversation with your grandkids!
Secondly, who cares whether you are fat or thin??? I find it appauling that people feel they have to put that much emphasis on their looks. Are you a good person? Are you friendly and kind? Are you helpful and trustworthy? Do you like to laugh and make others laugh? This is what people should look for in one another. Regardless of your looks you will almost definitely find a special boy that you really like and care enough about to add him to the depths of your memory for the rest of your life and share that first kiss.
I also do not know what you mean by being "on the pull" but I am assuming peer pressure??? If your friends are causing you to feel pressured you should ask them to stop. You are not trying to decide whether you should wear the blue shoes or the red ones with your outfit. You are talking about matters of the heart which should never be taken lightly or done out of pressure.
To recap: It is normal to be scared of your first kiss. You should be choosy and not just share it with the first guy that is willing. Share it with a guy who is scared just like you. Then you two will always have shared something special.
Dont feel pressured. These things tend to happen when they are meant to happen and usually leave you with a memory to look back and make you smile.
Best of luck.
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