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in love with my ex; what to do?
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It was finally over with me and my ex boyfriend just over a month ago. See, up to the point that I met him, no one ever really cared about me. No one. And slowly I lost more and more people that I could talk to. For the first time in my life, I actually met someone that cared about me, that loved me, that adored me and would do anything for me.
The relationship was on and off for about a year, but he always loved me and he was always there for me.
Then suddenly, he was acting as if I didn't exist. I have never been through anything so hard in my entire life. I had no one. After this went away, and I started feeling better about myself, I realised that I was in love with him.
He has a girlfriend now. I'm happy for him, but it doesn't stop the hurt. When he started dating her, I realised that I had to let him go and move on with my life. Though I still hope we end up together.
I've liked other guys since then, but nothing to compared to what I feel for him. We've known each other for like a year and a half, and we're in the same friendship group, so we're being "friends".
Thing is, I don't know how to be friends with him. We've never been "just friends".
We get on well and even flirt sometimes, but if his girlfriend's there he completely ignores me, and she always seems to be there now.
I try not to think about him, and I don't really speak to him anymore. I love and care about him more than anyone, and I want to be there for him, but it hurts too much to see him. I can't cope with it.
So what should I do? How do I be friends with him? Should I carry on not speaking to him or will I lose him? Should I try to get him back, or will I just be wasting my time when really I should move on?
I want to move on, but when I like other guys, I feel as if I'm just in denial, and I know that deep down, I'm still in love with my ex and I don't want it to always be like that.
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FINALLY! someone who is going through the same thing i am.
I text my ex every now and then. but in december itll be a year that him and his girlfriend have been going out. Honestly, i was the bad person and tried to break them up.. it almost worked but then he thought i was just trying to get him single because i said some pretty mean shit about him after he broke up with me because "his friends told him to".
And really, guys are such assholes but yet i find myself in a relationship right now. It's helping alot. Since Alex[the ex] i have been with about 3 or 4 guys in the past 2 years. And the boyfriend i currently have is 2 years older then me so he is going to college next year.. which will hurt me a lot.
Boyfriends hate hearing about your past. but it got to the point where i had to tell my boyfriend about alex [ryan wasnt my boyfriend at the time, but he basically was and thats a totally different story] He said that there is going to be one person that we can't shake off.. he also has someone he can't shake off. I read on a TRUE LIFE survey that a girl falls in love with a guy once in middle school, once or twice in high school (could be including the guy you cant shake off) and in college you just throw it out. When you are older you fall in love 3 or 4 times. I don't believe it, but it can be leading to something because in middle school i fell in love about twice. high school once so far [im a sophmore]. So i guess it can be true... but also it can not be. I was stupid and i put his name in my closet in hugee letters with permanat marker and it wont cover up.. i dont want to paint my closet because i have so many memories written all over it. Every time i go in there i see Alex 1/3/07<3<3<3 with a huge heart around it. Stupid right? people cant last as long as the paint on your closet wall can.
You just need to stop talking to him. delete him from your friends on myspace or facebook or aim or whatever you use. take him out of your cell phone contacts. the more you see his name, screen name, or him on the news feed you'll miss him more.
I dont have the guts to delete alex from my cell contacts, i worked SO hard to get that number i had to go though people and people to get it. And one night, i called his phone using private and i cried when i heard his voice.
His current girlfriend is a bitch to me so it makes it SOOOOOOOO much worse.
My only advice is to try to remove him from your life. if you start to think about him go take a run on your treadmill or outside. you have to get him out of your head.
If you need more help dont be afraid to message me because we can talk about it together :) it's always good to talk to someone who is going through the same thing you are.
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Well, I can really know how it feels cause I've been there before with my ex, but I think if you still have feelings for him you won't be able to move on if you talk and see him alot, that won't help at this time, you need time to let it go, to get over him, and it will really help that you won't talk to him now, just for now and then when you can be sure that you are completely over him then you guys can be friends , and at this time it won't hurt you anymore, don't think you won't find love again or that you won't find someone who would love you that way, it's just a normal feeling after you break up but believe me, you'll find that again even in a much better way, so try to move on, meet new people, do the things that you love to do and by time you'll get over it and you'll meet someone really special.
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