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How can I be careful not to break her heart
I have used this site before for something completely different, and it worked great so I thought I'd give it another try.
I started to talk to this 27 year old women on-line from a social site, and it started out as friends. I'm 21 years old myself. As well as an age gap the big problem is that she lives in Russia and I go to University in the US. Over the past few months We've exchanged e-mail almost every day, and she's grown to love me very much, and it is the same with me. She wants to visit me in America, but I live in a Dorm with guys all guys so it won't work out, and still have 3 years left. Of course I've told her all of this. The problem is she just doesn't seem to care, and has almost grown obsessed with trying to meet me. Maybe she's just trying to be romantic, but she's said to me before that the only thing that matters to her anymore is to be with me.
I really like her so it's hard for me to just call it off, and honestly I don't want to because I love to talk with her all the time. I just have no idea of how to make it work. Any advice at all or just observations on my situation would be very helpful. I've of course talked to some friends about it, but none of them have really taken it as seriously as I would have liked.
I want to meet with her, but I just don't know how to do it, and not have it be her awkwardly living with me while I go to college. Maybe I should call if off, and just be with a girl that lives close by, but I know that it's too late. I'm 100% sure that she would be utterly devastated if I stopped talking to her.
I very much appreciate the time and thought from all those who respond to help.
Thanks,
-Nick
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If she is just staying for a visit she could stay
at a motel or with a female friend of yours
overnight. That may be a little old fashioned,
but the fact is, you still don't REALLY know
her. :)
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the fact that she's so young and lives in russia is a problem for her coming here. most of my family is in russian and i know that they don't let most people under the age of 40-50 come here because they're scared they'll stay illegally. even for a visit they can deny her. sorry but this is the only information i have for you. i know for a fact however that if she get accepted (very unlikely) and does decide to come it will take a few months to process the paperwork.
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