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I really love him...
well my name's yvette
14/f
im currently dating someone that im like totally in love with the problem is we've only been together for a little more than a week and it usually takes me months before i tell a guy i love them even if within that period of time they've already said it to me well about the 3rd day into this relationship he busted out the 3 magic words and to my suprise i said it back...and meant it...it scares me to be falling so soon and i've been hurt so many times im afraid of how much it will hurt me if me and my current guy ever break up i love him but i put up a wall with every guy im with and it's up for him to i really want to trust him and give him everything but im scared so my question is should i tear down the wall for him because he's so different from my past relationships or is it to soon? thanx on advance =)
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I agree with soundspink in some ways.
At fourteen you should be out there having fun, not worrying about being tied down by boys and getting too deep.
Of course growing up you're bound to want to try things, get to know guys... it's part of life. But I don't think you should be making it too serious for yourself, as at your age you're allowed to be carefree :)
You're not an adult yet either so you should be enjoying the freedom and lack of responsibilities, 'cause honestly, I'm 17 now and with all my education and stuff coming through, my responsibilities are soaring, and I miss being younger. Really do.
I'm still yet to have a boyfriend myself, and I'm 3 years older! I do get attention and it is tempting sometimes, but you need to find a lad who deserves all your affections, and don't let any take advantage of you!
Always have high expectations :D
But basically I think you should take it easy and not fear breaking up, as someday somebody will truly steal your heart.
Xo
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Yvette, you lead a very mature and complicated life for a 14 year old. As satisfying as it is to feel grown and sophisticated, you have to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. You're playing a game right now that makes you feel older, but when you're in your 20s and 30s and you're still playing that same ole game, you're going to be absolutely miserable and wish you had waited a little while longer before you decided to play.
You're missing out on something really fun and cool right now - being 14! Life shouldn't be so serious when you're that age. It should be a celebration of fun, being young, and growing up. You shouldn't be telling guys you love them and giving them "everything." Even if you wait months, that's still way too soon! Look at what it's gotten you so far - nothing but past experiences. Love doesn't just fade into nothing like that.
If you're with someone who says they love you after 3 days, don't walk but RUN AWAY!!! This person is either trying to manipulate you or is as confused as you are. I'm well aware that these are things you don't want to hear, but if you want advice you should at least get it from someone who cares and can see the bigger picture. Save "everything" for the person who's worthy of having it. One day you'll meet someone deserving of your words, your love, and your affection.
That doesn't happen at 14.
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