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oh okay, this my story i need help on.
last year i dated this guy who is two years older than me, well this guy is VERY inexpereince NO joke, so well anyways it was only a week a lasted because he didnt come up to me at school, which he does to all his girlfriends becuase he doesnt know how to approach a gril GAY i know well anyways, this summer he came over to my cousins and we made out and it was his FIRST ever kiss. GAYER i know, well anyways were talking but the thing is HE LOVES!!!! to talk to other girls to but he doesnt get close to them like that. now i had asked him if i was wasting my time and well yeah im he said so i told him that i was talking to another guy so it wouldnt look like i was heart broken and stupid and now im talking to that guy VERY UNEXPECTANT!! well now im still stuck on it. becuase the very inexpereince boy goes to the gym every morning bc he loves to play basketball and well i have gym 1st period so im there wiht my friends, well anyways he gives me a look like he wants to get back but idkk he so so so so SOOOOOOO EFFIN. confusing, i dont know if i should talk to him again even if he did break my heart. so yeah, and that guy that i didnt think i was going to talk to after he is so sweet, and we are "offcially talking" but i had LOVE and i absoulety LOVED the inexpereince guy for the most longest time and i dont know if im over him. gahhhh I posted a question called a "a year long fling or a year wasted" and well i got my answer when i asked him but he is so confusing.
gahhhh i dont know what to do at ALL!!!!!
Help me out please.
-cheergirl0811 (link)
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I think you should feel very priviledged since you gave this guy his first kiss.
I don't know about everyone else, but nowadays I find every guy has had at least one girl, and it shows in some ways he has respect to not go around kissing every girl he sees.
So to find a beautiful inexperienced guy is to me, a special person to find.
Who do you prefer the most? The guy you're talking to now, or the inexperienced ex?
Whoever you see yourself with more, and the one your heart is drawn to is the direction you should go in.
You're lucky to be able to pick! But also if it's all too confusing for you, just move away from both, stay single for a bit, and find the one for you where there are no "what if's/buts".
Xo
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I am a sophomore in highschool and I am sort of in a relationship with a 22 year old. Do you think this is strange or perfectly fine? Any advice/comments are appreciated :] (link)
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I don't know if you're from the UK or not, but over here if someone is over 18 and seeing somebody in high school or of a young age, then it's actually illegal and against the law.
This is due to the risk of peer pressure and forcing you into doing things you're not comfortable with.
If you're both happy then there's not much anybody can do about it, however if adults find out then its likely this guy could get into trouble!
I'm not expert on relationships with these age gaps, but I'm pretty sure of the main outline.
Xo
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So my best friend hooked up with this guy over half a year ago.. lets call him Sam. They never actually went out and the hookup was a one or two time thing.
And shes had like 2 major boyfriends since then.
So when "Sam" asked me to hang out i wouldn't have thought it would be a big deal. Sam had his cell taken up so he called me from his house phone and told me where to meet him and then he left. As i was walking to go meet him i called my best friend just to check things wouldnt be weird.
She got extremely defensive and it was obvious that she was not okay with me meeting up with him. I told her i wasn't going to hang out with him since she sounded weird about it..
So I was going to meet up with him where he told me to just to tell him we couldn't chill. Mind you, we have a pretty obvious attraction to each other and I had been thinking about him a lot lately.. When i told him we couldn't hang out because of what my best friend and him did, he got kinda upset. I apologized and he reached down and kissed me. I was kinda shocked so it took a few seconds til i stopped it. After a little arguing i told him i had to leave and once i started walking away he ran after me and said he was just going to follow me home then even though my mom was home and i'd get in major trouble...
So i decided if he's gonna be this difficult i'll just stay a hang out a while, but one thing lead to another and we made out and he felt me up a little. But i didn't let it get any farther than that. Actually every time he tried to kiss me or pull me close to him i'd try to push him off but it never really worked. I really wanted to be with him and everything but i actually did try to get him off.
I really don't know what to do.
If i tell my best friend about this she'll totally freak out and we probably won't ever be the same.
And im pretty positive he won't tell anyone so it won't get around.
HELP. (link)
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Sounds like you're treating on water here.
But If you're best friend and Sam weren't a proper "couple" and it was a one-off thing then surely it should be okay.
As long as there were no deep emotions involved and she wasn't besotted by this guy, then it shouldn't be as much of a deal as she's making out.
You're best friend sounds a little jealous, but you shouldn't let her tell you what to do; it's your life so live it the way you want to.
If you're both mutually attracted to each other then that's how it is, we're made to be this way.
It's not like he started hanging out with you whilst seeing her, that would be a million times worse.
He's single. You're single. You're best friend's out the love equation now.
If you really thought he was worth more than your best mate in the long run, then couple up, but be warned your best mate will take a while to accept it... or may not accept it.
Xo
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okay SO
i've known this guy since like 4th grade, right? and i've liked him on and off since then, and he says he's liked me on and off since then too.
last year we went out for a while, but i was a sucky girlfriend back then and never was able to go anywhere, so it didnt work out. a week later he got with my friend, which devastated me.
i ignored him for a few months, which was hard because he was still my friend, but it helped me to get over him.
about a month or two ago, he and this girl broke up, we started talking again, and he started confusing me like big time, acting like he liked me and saying he liked me, and his ex said he liked me & she would be okay with it if we went out, but at the same time he still acted like he liked her. THEN he apparently fell back in love with her and we're all good friends now, but im heartbroken. i thought this would be my 2nd chance, but i lost it.
i guess what i would like to know is, should i wait and see if maybe i could still get my chance with him, or just get over him?
i dont know if the last is possible... but i need to know if im totally insane for wanting him this badly, & if i need to back off since he's with my friend and all.
sorry this was long and confusing but any kind of advice on what i can do is much appreciated.
i'm 14/f, by the way. (link)
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I would say it is more lust than love at your age.
This boy sounds like a complete idiot, and that he doesn't know what he wants, so he's playing the game.
Personally, I think you should be the better person and walk away from him.
Why should HE not give you the chance? It should be YOU not giving him the chance.
Listen to Leona Lewis - Best You Never Had and relate it to yourself.
You can do a lot better girl I'm sure :)
Xo
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so theres this guy in my history class, and he sits behind me. i never talk to him much, but hes really cute. so i had a dream about him. and in my dream we were going out and i had like MAJOR butterflies, i didnt know it was possible to actaully feel butterflies in a dream, but i did and i woke up right after i got them. so then the next day i saw this guy it was kind of awkward for me [not for him] and then we started chatting alot. so i think im falling for this guy. just because of my dream. is this normal?!?! (link)
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Dreams aren't always a sign of what's going on in real life.
I've had dreams before involving guys I'm friends with, but in reality I think nothing of them!
However, if you do think he's cute, then I guess there's no harm in believing in fate and such coincidences like this dream!
You'll just have to get to know him, speak to him more and this way you'll find out if you have things in common. You've already said you're chatting a lot so its a good start. :)
All I can say is, just don't base it all on the dream and think about the reality of it.
See where it takes you anyway, good luck!
Xo
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okay, well, my friend is so annoying!! she loves herself so much... and i don't know what to do... i told her that she needs to stop, but she just thought i was joking...
another thing that is really pissing me off lately is that, well i've already asked a question about this but, anyway, well she went to a band camp and got with this guy, even though she had a nearly boyfriend at home but i accidently told her nearly boyfriend, and now she keeps bringing it up and making me feel bad but am i right in saying that if she really cared about the guy at home she wouldn't of gone with the one at band camp would she? (link)
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Don't feel like you've been a bad mate, because from my perspective you sound like a respectful friend.
If she's full of herself, she needs telling, and you've only told her for her own good, to make her a better person. Sure she laughed it off, but who takes comments like that lightly? Hopefully she takes it into account and changes a little.
The fact him and the 'nearly boyfriend' weren't properly together probably means in her eyes it was okay, seeing as she was single.
She does sound confused with what and who she wants, I think we've all been/will be in that position at some point in life. But it's not right to lead one on and have a random fling. The guy must be so hurt.
All I can suggest is leaving her to it and hopefully she'll learn. You've tried to be a good friend, and if she is annoying, then try and distance yourself away from her, and then she may realise her behaviour is pushing others away.
Hope that helps :)
Xo
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well my name's yvette
14/f
im currently dating someone that im like totally in love with the problem is we've only been together for a little more than a week and it usually takes me months before i tell a guy i love them even if within that period of time they've already said it to me well about the 3rd day into this relationship he busted out the 3 magic words and to my suprise i said it back...and meant it...it scares me to be falling so soon and i've been hurt so many times im afraid of how much it will hurt me if me and my current guy ever break up i love him but i put up a wall with every guy im with and it's up for him to i really want to trust him and give him everything but im scared so my question is should i tear down the wall for him because he's so different from my past relationships or is it to soon? thanx on advance =) (link)
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I agree with soundspink in some ways.
At fourteen you should be out there having fun, not worrying about being tied down by boys and getting too deep.
Of course growing up you're bound to want to try things, get to know guys... it's part of life. But I don't think you should be making it too serious for yourself, as at your age you're allowed to be carefree :)
You're not an adult yet either so you should be enjoying the freedom and lack of responsibilities, 'cause honestly, I'm 17 now and with all my education and stuff coming through, my responsibilities are soaring, and I miss being younger. Really do.
I'm still yet to have a boyfriend myself, and I'm 3 years older! I do get attention and it is tempting sometimes, but you need to find a lad who deserves all your affections, and don't let any take advantage of you!
Always have high expectations :D
But basically I think you should take it easy and not fear breaking up, as someday somebody will truly steal your heart.
Xo
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