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My friend and my crush
16/f
The guy i have liked for about 4 months now (and we "talked" a week over the summer), well like i was saying, i really like him. He is really cute but he has a really nice personality to go with it to. He is a big flirt with girls but he isn't a player. When he has a girlfriend, he dosen't flirt with other girls. Anyways, well my best friend has a flirty personality. They both are like that. Well when they are around eachother, it seems like they flirt. A bunch of people think this, it's not just me. Whenever i confronted her about it, she was like "No! I don't like him like that, i consider him as my brother, he is my best guy friend!!" Well, he tells her everything since they are "best friends." Everytime someone is like "Do you like eachother?" Brayden(the guy i like ) always tells lauren (my bff) "They are just jealous that me and you are best friends and that we hang out and stuff..." and she's like "yeah, since we are good friends." She talks about him being her best friend in front of me all the time and is like "people are so jealous of our friendship." I wouldn't even have the nerve to say that to her if it was the other way around. I wouldn't flirt with the guy she likes and say "oh, i can't tell you who he likes because we are bestfriends." She would have told me 2 months ago if i asked her because her and him were not as close friends then. She even once tried to hook me up with him. (Didn't work) It makes me kind of upset when i ask her who he likes and she won't tell me. A couple months ago, she would have, but now they hang out a lot more. I know she dosen't want to betray his secret but i am supposed to be her best friend and i think about who he likes all the time and she knows that and she won't tell me. She's his "best friend" obviously more than she is mine. They always hug and he hugs me to but her more. I get jealous..i will just admit it. I mean, i know i am probably not the girl he likes because he dosen't really show it, so now i just want to focus on just being his friend. I can't do that because lauren keeps getting in the way. Everytime he needs help with something, she is right there by his side, she automatically drops what she is doing to go help him. I would do that if i had the chance but i don't because she always gets in the way. She is supposed to be my best friend and help me get to be his friend more and stuff but whenever i get that chance, she always takes it from me. Best friends shouldn't do that. If it was the other way around, i would help her get the chance to talk to the guy she liked instead of me constantly being by him. I know she would never go out with him because "they wouldnt want to ruin their <<<fabulous>>> friendship." I know that they wouldn't go out, it's just the fact that they are such close friends and why i can't ever get the chance to get in when she is supposed to be helping me with him. Also, not telling me who he likes. Am i being selfish? Please somebody tell me what to do or some advice so i can finally feel good for one day!! Thanks!!
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Jealousy stinks but if you don't handle yourself in a classy manner, you could end up losing a couple of very good friends (trust me, I know). It's extremely hard but try and step back and look at the situation from another angle.
I was in a similar situation and I know how badly it hurts and while it was difficult, I kept my jealously in check and in the end it all worked out. Chances are, your friend and this guy probably have mutual feelings for each other but don't want to admit it. Until they sort out everything going on between them, you should just back up a little bit and try to be supportive.
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t5his might not make you feel much better but that sounds like your just jealous and thats not an easy emotion to deal with -trust me been there!!! but the only way i can see this going to work is if you let him go and just move on if your friend is getting in the way then maybe you should find someone else to occupy your time im not saying look for a guy who is going to take the other guys place or use somebody for attention but i am saying maybe you should widen your range a little
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