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so i'm fourteen years old, my birthday is in december, i'm verrrry mature for my age. i know whats right from wrong, and stuff like that. i just got out of a relationship that was basically based on sexuall things like handjobs, blowjobs, fingering, and stuff. me and my ex boyfriend (16) would do stuff everyday we hung out. it was okay and stuff but idk it made me more mature. i am now in a relationship with a boy that has been my friend since late july ish? i have kinda liked him since late july, but he had a girlfriend till mid august, and i dated my ex boyfriend from late july to late august. anyways, my "new" boyfriend was basically my bestfriend, and i feel really comfortable with him. i kinda want to have sex with him i'm just scared, and i think it's too early, but i still want to. i'm just scared about what would happen, and if i went to the doctors or something they would ask me and i dont want to tell my mom, because i really dont have a good relationship with my mom. i am definatly scared that somehow if one of our parents found out what would happen because my mom and his mom are good friends. he is 16, turning 17 on october 25th. also, we are in a long distance relationship (live about an hour away) but we try to see eacother every weekend beause he has a camp where i do. i need advice about what i should do, and basically a lot of information about sex. :/
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like memtion before, with sex comes reponsblity (no I did not take that from spiderman), just for the record I have known many people who had engaed with such pratices, and they later regreted it, my addvice if you truely care about him, saty away form sexual stuff in general. there are far worst things that can come from such act then just getting Pregenat. (I don't mean to scare you, I just wanted you to know what I have seen, and I don't want you to go through the same things as my dear friends)
but as always the choice is yours
may you find what you are looking for.
Shadowfox
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well you said it yourself, you want to but you are scared. wanting to are the hormones acting up at this age. there is plenty of time for sex down the road. at this young age, people date for a few months and move on, im not saying this will be your case, its just the statistics. you dont want to give up something so valuable that you cant get back do you? i dont want to see you getting hurt. and at your age, i would stay away from sex. stay away from it until you are settled down at an older age and in deep love!
wait until you are so ready your scared feelings disappear. and wait until you can take responsibility. sex is very emotional..especially for a virgin . wait for the special one. 14 is very very young in my opinion. dont become a statistic. so many young people say they wish they would have waited. virginity is taken away and when it is,, it never comes back again.
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You should never lie to a doctor. Ever. They can't tell your parents. They exist to keep you safe.
Every time you have sex, you are taking a risk.
You are taking the risk that is too soon, and that the person will turn out to be quite different then you thought.
You are taking the risk that the relationship will end, and the intimacy of sex will make that even harder to deal with. This risk is even higher as this is a new, long-distance, relationship.
You are taking the risk of getting an STD.
You are taking the risk of getting pregnant.
You are taking the risk of your parents finding out.
SEX IS RISKY! If those risks scare you too much, if you don’t know how to deal with them, then it's not worth having sex. If you can’t handle what would happen if those things DID happen, then you aren’t ready to take those risks.
You've only been dating this guy for a few weeks. For goodness sake hun, I'm a rather sexually liberated 23 year old and I wouldn't sleep with a guy I'd only been seeing on the weekends for a few weeks! I’ve learned better then that! It sucks! It doesn’t bring two people closer at that point. It just screws everything up.
It's perfectly fine that you have some experience with sexual acts with your ex, but please, take things slower with a guy you really care about, or else you will have experience with a broken heart pretty damn quick.
Teens aren't told not to have sex because we don't want you to have fun. We say it because sex is risky. We say it because we did dumb things as teens and got hurt, badly, and want better for you.
Wait until you know the relationship has a bit more staying power to jump into bed with someone, and seriously consider the ways in which you are going to reduce the risks I mentioned above. If you can’t seriously address those risks, then having sex wouldn’t be a very smart move at all.
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