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Long distance
Ok, so my boyfriend lives in Venezuela, and I live in Florida. I used to live in venezuela, when I met him, and we were like madly in love. Then i moved here, and we are still trying to keep up the relationship. But the thing is, he is VERY committed to getting married, having a family, and everything, and I am not. I mean, I dont know how it's gonna work out, if he ends up being the one, well thats fine, but I am still young (16) and if it doesn't work out, i understand that there are other guys. But I have told Carlos that, you know, I can't promise anything, I dont know whats gonna happen between us until we can be together again, and he says: I know, I know, but then just goes right back to saying "youre the one im going to marry and have a family with"
My worries are, what if I do have to break up with him. He is very clingy and sensitive, and I feel like he might die if I did, even though I really don't want our relationship to end now, but if it had to someday I dont know how he would take it.
And i dont want to say "we are NOT going to get married" because, he really is one of the best people I have ever met, and also I dont want him to think that im not taking this relationship thing seriously.
thanks
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Dump him.
You aren't on the same page or the same path. You don't want what he wants. You don't want to dedicate yourself completely to this relationship (and at 16, no one can blame for that!) and you aren't listening to each other. It's not working out.
It's not about the distance. The distance is probably prolonging this relationship, because if you were together, you'd be fighting about this, instead of just disagreeing across a few thousand miles.
If you don't share the same dream for life, you aren't going to be happy together, even if you stay together. If you know you aren't going to marry him, and he can’t grasp that, the sooner you end it the better.
It doesn't make either of you bad people. I'm sure he really is wonderful, and so are you. You might just be bad for each other. Best to recognize that. Choosing to end a relationship IS taking the relationship seriously. Letting your partner misled themselves about your future together... that is being careless with it.
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Basically i wouldn't worry about it at the moment, your still young and like you said things could change. But don't feel pressured at all into marrage or starting a family, thats the worst thing that could happen. You marry him and you only do it because he wants you to, don't feel pressured at all. By the sounds of it he sounds pretty understanding so im sure he would respect your wish's if you aren't ready for this sort of commitment.
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