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Relationships and love as a teenager...
So I'm in a relationship for the first time, and on top of that, my boyfriend was my first real, major crush. I've had a crush on him for a few months (pretty much since I met him), and we've been going out for three weeks....so these kinds of feelings are rather new to me, and I guess as for most people / teens, they can be pretty...intense, shall we say...and I'm wondering if it's better to let myself get caught up in it and completely enjoy the experience or to stay attached to the earth and realize that as a teen, I'm a naive, hormone-flooded being and keep in mind that teen relationships are usually basically purely for fun, and therefore not take to seriously what I think I feel at any point, because it probably isn't "really true."
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I have to say that you should be aware of both but, never think become someone tells you you aren't in love or you cant be because of age or naiveness or whatever it is. that is not true. love is something that only the person who is feeling it feels and knows. no one can tell u how YOU feel. I think it is great you are having these feelings. always enjoy yourself because there is no greater time then the present and you don't know what is going to happen later. but also be aware that he is a guy and his feelings may also be strong but also different from yours. girls tend to be more emotional so just keep in mind that you will be playing with your feelings and exploring love. but don't let that take away from your experience. also keep in mind, you don't have to jump to being in love. as i said i think you should just be a little cautious, have fun and be into it but also just have that reminder that you are a teenager and feelings change and he is a male lol. have fun i hope it all goes well
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Well you need to do a little of both,
Stay grounded and do keep an mind that no matter how perfect it seems and how many times he tells you he loves you
you guys are still young and though it doesnt seem like it you guys dont have yourselves figured out yet
on the other hand have fun!
this is something you will remember your whole life
enjoy every moment of it!
Love is amazing!
young love is amazing and fun!
Have fun!
-Hope i helped
-Peace Love Happiness
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OMG this is the first time i have ever heard this. You might hate me for what i am about to say. But how can you sit there right at the start and sound like an old hag? How can you say you cant feel anything REAL?? Yes we are a little naive and stupid, but thats teenagers. What does that have to do with feelings? Yesterday someone looked at my cousin and told her she wasnt in love because she wasnt old enough. Well i believe that love comes in all shapes and sizes at any age. And if we dont know what love is does that mean we cant love our family. Feel what you feel...everything is not a statistic
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FEELINGS are real. Seriously. They just are.
You are not doing yourself any favors if you start denying yourself the right to FEEL whatever the hell you do!
Of course, it's important to be able to see those feelings in the greater context of your life. For instance, sometimes I feel like punching my brother, but in the greater context I really do love him (and he is much bigger then me.) Sometimes we label a feeling wrongly, and say we 'hate' something when we really don't.
But staying away from those traps is about paying attention to your feelings and the rest of your life, not about denying yourself the right to feel.
So my vote is for both. Let yourself get swept away. That is what romance and good books are for! Taking us above our petty little lives and giving us something that feels essential. But also know not to take yourself too seriously and say or do things you know you’ll likely regret.
You don't need to shut off your heart! You aren't heartless.
You don't need to pretend you aren't a sea of raging hormones! You are.
You don't need to pretend that you aren't learning and discovering and experimenting with relationships. You are and you should be!
You don't have to pretend you a brainless love fool either. You aren't.
The very fact that you asking this question, means are capable of striking that balance between heart and mind. You might mess it up a bit, but hey, you're a teen. You have time to prefect it and there will be other chances.
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