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So i was talking to this guy about two months ago and then i left for vacation. When i got back we weren't really talking like we used to. He then left for vacation and we stopped talking. We have been friends for a long time. A month after he got back he started dating this girl. The girl is a friend of mine, but she's not my best friend. I wouldn't trust her with all my secrets. We do always invite each other to our parties, but we don't talk a whole lot. Now that they are dating the guy has been talking to me. We hang out all the time. He calls me everyday. And i'm starting to like him again. We talked about what we are going to do about it cause he likes me back. I told him I can't keep talking to him while he's in a relationship so i told him he would have to make his choice soon. I'm mostly worried about pissing off my friend. I'm in need of some advice. got any?
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the way i see it, there are a couple of ways this could pan out. 1) the guy could leave your friend and date you, which makes it pretty obvious that you two were talking prior to their breakup. 2) he could stay with the girl and two end up hooking up and keeping it a secret from your friend, and both end up feeling guilty. 3) he stops talking to you a stays with your friend.
how good of a friend is she? is she worth losing? i can't really answer these questions for you, obviously, and maybe this isn't the "right" advice, but if she isn't that great of a friend, wait for him to break up with her and date him. that's what i would want to do. unless she's a good friend, despite you guys not being close. what do you think she would do if you guys switched places? would she date him or would be really be altruistic enough to give up a guy she liked for you?
it's up to you. do what makes you happiest, but don't be surprised if that makes you some enemies. good luck.
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I am in the same place as you. But telling him you cant be his friend just because you 2 have feeling for each other and he has a gf isnt the best solution. you should be there for him because you are friends. If your not his friend he might not know how great of a person you really are. just give it time and things will fall in place but dont rune a good friend ship over jelousy
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