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friend flirting
Ok, thanks for the advice again. You are really good at this so i have more to the story. This is kinda long. Sorry if i am driving you nuts with this. Oh, and over the summer me and jared "talked" for a week but then he had to get a job so he couldn't talk anymore but we still texted as friends but nothing flirty. We still text, but again, nothing flirty. Well today in class she sat in the same seat as him and was helping him with a worksheet and every couple of seconds i would see them wispering to eachother. So i was standing right behind them and she still wouldn't stop. Then, they both volenteered to run an errand for the teacher and they were gone forever and i bet the whole time, they were flirting. Then, in the next class she was like "Omg, jared tried on my ring (i guess just to be funny) and he streched it out." I gave her kind of a weird look and she said "Me and jared are just friends so you don't have to worry." Then i was like "Does he know that i like him?" and she said that he had known for two days and he said he dosen't know if he likes me. I don't know if she was telling the truth but i think she was. Ever since he knew that i liked him he hasn't hugged me or said hi to me every morning like he used to or talk to me any. I don't think he likes me anymore but i'm not sure. I don't really want to ask him. I don't know how to act around kaysy now. If i call her out on it, she might go back to him and say that i keep bugging her about him or she might say to him, "she thinks that we are flirting." I don't want him to think i'm jealous. But if i don't do anything, she might keep flirting and just keep doing it and she might think it dosen't bother me. I have never liked a guy this much and now she does this. I don't know how to act around her anymore. What should i do and how should i act around her. Now, every time i talk to him, he is probably thinking that i am flirting. I don't like guys knowing that i am flirting unless that guy likes me to. But like i said, he talks to her a lot more than me but he just has that flirty personality so i'm not sure if he actually likes her or if he is just flirting just for the heck of it. Please help! Thanks!!
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Okay, so this is getting a little out of hand with the way your friend is acting. It was okay for awhile but now it's gone on too long. I think your friend is being a little sketchy and untrustworthy. You need to tell her that. You need to be completely honest and straight forward with her by telling her that you don't like the way she treats him and she's not being a very good friend. She's going OUT OF HER WAY to flirt with him by helping him with worksheets and leaving class to walk around the halls with him. I know you're sort of put in an awkward position where you don't want to bring this up to her because she may get offended and tell the boy you like, but it needs to be said. Pull the "how would you feel if i did that to you?" card. As much as people don't like to hear that, it gets them thinking. Because she obviously wouldn't want you to do that to her!
As for the guy, he seems a little stand off-ish and that could be for a couple of different reasons. 1.) He knows that you like him but he's confused because your friend who's suppose to SET YOU UP is FLIRTING with him! He probably thinks that's pretty shady and he doesn't want to get involved.
Another reason could be (probably not the one you want to hear) that the feelings aren't mutual. He just may not feel the same way about you. It's hard to think about that because you like him so much, but it's a possiblity. It may even be a good thing if you found out sooner than later that he doesn't like you back, because then you can start focusing on other guys you may be interested in. It would give you time to move on. In this case, it helps to think about the negative qualities that could have been in a relationship like, he flirts with a bunch of girls or something.
When I was a freshmen in high school, I fell really hard for this upper classmen guy because he showed me a lot of attention and he would flirt with me (even though he had a girlfriend). So one night, soon after his girlfriend broke up with, him he came over and we ended up hooking up. The next day he called me and apologized for doing that because he said he didn't like me like that and that we'd never date. I think about that and I'm still crushed because I liked him soo much, but in a sense, I was glad he did that. I figured out who he really was, and realized we would never work!
I sort of hope if you figure out he doesn't like you, you'll move on. But hey, there's always other possiblities as to why he's being a little weird.
I hope I helped you out a little bit! If you have any more questions or need my advice for anything just keep messaging me! I'll always reply!
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