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i don't know what to do.
my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 4 months, and we fight all the time. and then in 1 of our fights, he just told me he didn't love me anymore.. and he said he didn't know because we hadn't seen each other in awhile, and i was like okay, when we see each other again, things will be fine. well, we saw each other, again, again, again, and he never said it. so i brought it up, he said it wasn't fair to me to tell me he loved me, and then tell me he didn't, so he needed to make sure. well, alot of things have happened anymore, he isn't the same as we were before, and we almost break up daily, and i cry all the time, and i bitch and complain to him alot too, mostly about not seeing each other and him not calling me. (because he never does and he told me he'd call me more) and, i really just don't know what to do, should i stay with him? should i throw in the towel? i never used to believe in heartbreak before, but now, i feel like he's ripping my heart out of my chest, it hurts so bad, but i love him so much. my family loves him and everything. i don't know if i will ever be the same after this.. i just feel like sleeping and never waking up. then sometimes i think, what would happen if i died, you know? like, how would he take it, would he even care i was gone? i just, i really need someone to talk to. and i need advice.
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Relationships are one of the most difficult things in the world to be a part of, you have to be able to compromise and give to it. But if both parties aren't giving and you feel as though you aren't getting the attention you deserve then yes I think it's time to give up on it. But it's not my place to tell you that, you have to make that decision for yourself. I think you should sit down with your boyfriend and discuss where you both stand in the relationship, from what you told me there is no way that you guys are happy. I mean you say you fight daily and you never see one another and not seeing each other is hard enough, but then when you fight constantly about it it just maakes it worse.
It is also bad that you are actually thinking about dying, that is really really not a good sign. A relationship is supposed to make you want to live and make you happy, and if it's doing the opposite then maybe you guys just need a break from one another. When you sit down with him let him know that you really do care about him, but that you just aren't happy and you don't even feel like it's worth it. Get his feedback, maybe it would just be better for both of you guys if you just took some time away, so you could both think. If you guys think you are happier apart then stay that way, in the end you have to do what makes you happy. It may not seem like a good idea at the time, but if you are already doubting him and the relationship then you aren't going to regret getting away from it for a little while.
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I don't know how to put this nicely, but would you want to call and commit to someone who cried and bitched and complained all the time? I'm guessing no. I understand you're worried about losing him and want to show him how much you care, but you have to ask yourself if you are behaving like someone he would want to be with.
You are sleeping so much because you are depressed, and if this relationship is the cause, you need to do something to take your mind off of it. Try exercising or starting a hobby with a friend. When he sees that you are enjoying your own life, he might want to make the effort to be more involved too. It's that whole "loving yourself before anyone can love you" thing.
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