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letting go.
what's the easiest way to get over your first love? we were together almost a year. we were each others first 'real' relationship and took each other's virginity. we recently broke up and i dont know what to do now. we havent talked since, (not that i really want to now) and he's trying to make me jealous. i've tried hanging out with someone else but idk. and i can't find anything really to keep me busy so i don't think about it. please help.
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It's true, it really does take time. It's going to hurt for a little while, but after that "little while", you'll have movedd on, and even found something so much better.
Moving on isn't always the best thing to do at first. I mean, if you stumble upon someone you really like, go for it, but don't force yourself into anything. Distract yourself with other things -- Activities, being with friends, helping others/charity, reading, movies, writing, getting really into your school work, etc. Charity would be a really fantastic thing to be at the moment. It sounds dumb -- Charity to get over a break up, but take my word, it'll feel really rewarding, and you'll be more busy thinking about the things you're helping with than the thoughts hurting you.
The best thing to do is to usually put yourself in the company of others, in general. If you're not into the charity idea (though I really recommend you, and some freinds try it together even), be with other people. That dosen't mean instantly dating, just being with people you trust and enjoy being around. They'll help you to have fun and think about fun things. Remember not to just stay in the house because you're upset or anything. It seems like it'd be alright to stay at home and relax, but get out there and have fun!
Also, if you find yourself thinking about this guy, do something to distract you or get your emotions out. Just don't sit and dwell -- It's one of the worst things you could do. It's corny, and people always recommend it, but write it out. That, or talk to a friend, or even someone on advicenators if you think you're getting excessive with ranting about your ex, ha.
It'll be hard and takes time. Just try to fill that time with as much productivity and fun as possible. You'll move on to new and better things.
XOXO
KAT.
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Well I'm sorry about your brake up but they only make you stronger. It's always going to be hard to loose someone you really cared about but when the door closes a new one opens. ( ik its old fashion and corny) Have a sleep over with your friends or confide in your best friend all your thoughts about it. Don't try to ignnore the fact that it hurt. Face it and then cope. You can help with chores around the house or do some volunteering. If you want to stay busy do it by helping your community or the world. I hope I helped.
Jade f/15
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