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Painful sex
Everytime my boyfriend and I perform foreplay or intercourse it is really uncomfortable. It feels like his penis and fingers are hitting something.
He isn't even going really deep, it's probably only about an index finger deep before I feel the pain.
It can't be anything do to with his size because my previous boyfriend was a much smaller size yet I felt the same discomfort.
I decided to "explore" myself a little, to see if I could maybe find a way that is less uncomfortable, but I just can't work it out.
Im sick of this getting in the way of thngs, my boyfriend keeps worrying, because he thinks he is doing something wrong no matter how much I tell him it's not him.
Does anyone have any idea's what could be causing this?
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well at certain times of the month your cervix hangs lower then it usually does and when something hits it with force like a penis.. it hurts a lottttt that use to happen to me and then we had sex after my period when its back up and it was fine and didnt hurt at all.. maybe thats whats happening with you ?
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It sounds like it could be vaginismus, it is where your muscles contract making sex very painful or impossibe.
I had this problem since I was 16, it made sex impossible, it's only within the last month that i've been able to enjoy sex (i'm now 24). It still hurts sometimes but not as bad. It used to make me cry in pain but now i can get enjoyment.
I suggest you buy some "toys", small one and medium and get used to those, very gently.
The posistion that worked for us was me on top, although in the past it hasn't been comfy but it seems to be the only way to get started for me personally.
Don't just sit on top like they do in the movies, sit first to position it, then lay your chest on his, the lower your body it the less it hurts (or in my case anyway).
Missionary was impossible cos of the pain!!!
You could also see your gp, as he might have more of an indication to what is happening, and maybe see a gyno.
There are some cone type things in different sizes that can also be used to help this problem but ask your gp first.
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