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my boyfriend..
me and my boyfriend live in different states
and we talk somewhat more then we did before becasue we got into a huge fight about it and i guess he realized i was right
but girls will add him on myspace and he tells them their cute.
and it makes me mad cause hes suppose to be with me. and i dont go do that stuff
and ive told him before about this and hes like im not doing anything shes just my bestfriend
well this girl is like a new friend and they dont know eachother at all
and it makes me so mad cause he doesnt understand my feelings
and i commented him and he told me to text him so i did
and he said one thing to me and i texted him back twice
and then i told him that i hate when he comments girls about being cute
and of course he didnt text me back. im getting soo frustrated with our relationship
and i know all we can do is talk about it. but he likes to call me at like 2 in the morning when a normal person is suppose to be sleeping at that time. but i dont cause i wait up all night for him to call. and sometimes he doesnt even call
and yesterday i took a survey on myspace and it said she did you last text and it was like mike and justin
justin is my friend and mike is my exbf..
and he asked me who they were and he got mad when i told him who mike was and i tohught it wa cute
but he cant get mad at me cause he talks to soo many girls.
but should i worry about him calling girls cute on myspace?
i know i shouldnt but we live in different states
and he could be messaging that girl right now or like talking to her on the phonee
he cna be doing anything without me knowing
i need helppp :[
sorry that this was long
and probably confusing
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You're right -- He really could be doing anything with other girls, on MySpace or not. Long distance relationships require a TON of trust and patience. Consider if you both have enough trust and patience to continue this. Are you dating out of habit, or do you two still really care about each other the way you used to? Is this relationship causing more problems or issues between you two? Would it be better if you two were friends? Try to answer those questions, and questions like it, and see if you guys are still cut out for this stuff. If you are, more power to you -- You're strong! (:
To worrying about him calling girls "cute" on MySpace, it all depends what kind of guy he is. If he's naturally very friendly, and talks like that, I'd say not to really worry. A lot of guys use this word really commonly now, and it's just like a compliment like "pretty" or "nice", even. However, if he normally wouldn't speak like this at all, or dosen't even say that to you (or something like "beautiful" or "gorgeous"), it'd be natural to worry a little.
I'd say to try to let the "cute" thing go. As long as he's still talking to you, it should be fine. If he seems like he's talking to these other girls A LOT more than you though, I'd worry a little about that. Make sure he's a trust-worthy guy. You don't need someone lying to you or anything, so when you're unsure of something -- Say it!
Him talking a lot to his new "best friend" could just be him adjusting to the new area. It's really difficult to start hanging out with new guys when coming to a new area, and girls are usually a lot nicer. Just make sure you know about her intentions. If you start to see them getting closer, start asking questions -- You've got the right to. It's not just you being suspicious, it's you looking out for yourself. Don't feel bad if you have to ask him things.
The fact that he got mad back at you is obviously pretty hypocritical. Let him know that if he can say that kind of thing, you should be able to, aswell. It just sounds like you two are both kind of suspicious of each other, which kind of makes someone wonder about the "trust" aspect.
If he's not calling you, try to call him sometimes. It's not annoying or obnoxious. And if he thinks it is, he's not a guy who deserves to have you call him. If he seems like he's busy or something, wait for him to call back. Just don't make yourself wait up until two in the morning, that's just not fair.
For now, just try to keep communicating. If he seems like he's getting worse, think about your relationship, and whether it's hurting your helping you guys get along in life. Would it be best to not be tied down when you don't live near each other? Can he be trusted around other girls? Just make sure you talk to him about all of this stuff. It's okay to be worried, and if he's a good boyfriend, he should be able to put up with that and reassure you once in a while.
XOXO
KAT.
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Alright, well i understand why you are getting upset over this. I would to. I wouldn't want my boyfriend telling other girls they are cute. I would try to confront him again and tell him you don't like it. If this dosen't work and it is still making you really mad i would consider breaking up with him. Long distance relationships aren't always the best because you have to have A LOT of trust for eachother and it dosen't sound like that in your situation. Good luck! Hope this helps!
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Part of a long-distance relationship is trusting that the other person will remain faithful. You're right; he could pretty much do whatever and you might not know about it. I'd say calling girls cute isn't something to fret about because I do that sometimes when I'm dating someone, and it doesn't mean anything.
I think the only time you should worry is if he's talking to all of these girls MORE than he talks to you, if that makes sense. If he talks to you more, there probably isn't much to worry about. If he talks to them more, I would talk to him about it.
If he claims there's nothing going on, you really just have to accept it because after all, he is your boyfriend.
I think the two of you should put your jealousy issues aside and just be happy that you have each other. Sorry that wasn't meant to be rude.
--Jack
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