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I like a guy that is engaged and I am in a relationship
Okay so here is the story.
I have been dating the same guy since I have been a teenager. We have been dating for 9 years. I just moved in with him. I really cannot complain about our relationship. The only thing is we are complete opposites. Just sometimes I wish I could know what it would be like with someone else. The only problem is, is that I am afraid to give him up.
So the problem is that I have been in a band for a year. I really like one of my band mates. We have a lot in common and we flirt really bad with one another. There is an obvious attraction here. We complain about our other halfs to each other all the time. Well he proposed months ago and just bought a house. It seems like he is second guessing himself as well.
I do not think that either one of else will ever say anything to each other. I just do not want to make things wierd and I do not know if I would want to leave my bf. Maybe I would leave if my band mate felt the same way. Im just confused. This situation is just too crazy.That is it in short. He does tons of stuff to let me know he is interested, so do I, but no one is saying anything!
What do I do?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
The question is... do you love your boyfriend. Sit back and think about that being open minded, and remember there are many types of love out there. I'm not asking you to doubt yourself even more but just be aware that sometimes it's better to explore your options a little. Talk to him though and tell him how you feel, because you'd be suprised he might feel the same way. On the other hand if you're feeling you really like this guy in your band then get to know him and be friends... don't rush, and talk to him and tell him what type of situation you're in. Believe me sometimes all you have to do is tell someone how you feel and they might start to open up. Try this but know that there are other people's feelings involved. If you want to talk more just drop me an inbox and I'd be glad to elaborate and clarify what I mean.
-Ashley
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The only thing I can say to you is this:
Ask yourself if this guy is really worth throwing away your 9 year relationship.
Would you have even considered these thoughts of being with someone else had this guy not came along?
ygs-30/f
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