Okay so here is the story.
I have been dating the same guy since I have been a teenager. We have been dating for 9 years. I just moved in with him. I really cannot complain about our relationship. The only thing is we are complete opposites. Just sometimes I wish I could know what it would be like with someone else. The only problem is, is that I am afraid to give him up.
So the problem is that I have been in a band for a year. I really like one of my band mates. We have a lot in common and we flirt really bad with one another. There is an obvious attraction here. We complain about our other halfs to each other all the time. Well he proposed months ago and just bought a house. It seems like he is second guessing himself as well.
I do not think that either one of else will ever say anything to each other. I just do not want to make things wierd and I do not know if I would want to leave my bf. Maybe I would leave if my band mate felt the same way. Im just confused. This situation is just too crazy.That is it in short. He does tons of stuff to let me know he is interested, so do I, but no one is saying anything!
What do I do?
The question is... do you love your boyfriend. Sit back and think about that being open minded, and remember there are many types of love out there. I'm not asking you to doubt yourself even more but just be aware that sometimes it's better to explore your options a little. Talk to him though and tell him how you feel, because you'd be suprised he might feel the same way. On the other hand if you're feeling you really like this guy in your band then get to know him and be friends... don't rush, and talk to him and tell him what type of situation you're in. Believe me sometimes all you have to do is tell someone how you feel and they might start to open up. Try this but know that there are other people's feelings involved. If you want to talk more just drop me an inbox and I'd be glad to elaborate and clarify what I mean.
-Ashley
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I have social anxiety disorder and wish i could put my feelings into poems, but i absolutely can't right poetry, so i would really like to find some communities or websites or whatever where there are poems, essays, entries, etc. written by people with social anxiety disorder about how they feel, etc.
Thank you!
I'm not sure if this will help you but here are some links to check out. Hope I helped!!! Write to me if you need someone to talk to... I'd be glad to listen.
-Ashley
Click on links/ copy and paste into your web address box ;)
http://www.social-anxiety-network.com/socialanxietystories.html
http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/
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help you guys i really need serious help... i need a book that lists and discusses the main four theories of feminism for a research paper... i really need this asap! anyone knows of a book or philosopher or whatever that discusses this?
I'm not sure if this will help but it's worth a shot...
-Ashley
Click this link:
http://www.phillwebb.net/History/TwentiethCentury/20Fem.htm
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when ppl say dont pop or squeeze pimples,
then how the heck do i get rid of them?
especially when thefollowing day is a special day?
what do you guys do whenyou have apimple and want to get rid of it RIGHT AWAY?
home remedy?
The best thing to do is pop it but make sure you have alcohol or seabreeze to to wipe over it so it doesn't get infected. Then just let it scab over and you'll barely notice it.
-Ashley
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I am a 22 year old female. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and everything in our relationship is good except he has a problem with my sexuality. It is REALLY hurting the relationship. I feel as if sex is more of a chore then anything else. We still have sex a good amount, but not as often as he would like. And he knows I do not enjoy it (dispite my acting haha). It's not that sex feels bad or anything, it actually just doesn't feel like anything at all. I can enjoy myself sexually by myself, but have never really gotten pleasure out of sex with any of my partners in my life. Maybe I am masterbating wrong, therefore my boyfriend cannot get me excited? I know that I am supposed to tell my partner what feels good to me, but I don't even know where to start. Nothing really feels that good.
This problem has really been wearing down on me and my relationship lately and I could really use the advice. Thank you for your time!!
Hi this is Ashley, having sex should never feel like a chore, because then what's the point of having sex at all? Sex is supposed to be enjoyable and mutual, never taken advantage of especially if you love one another... he should be sympathetic about the way your feeling and I'm hoping he is. I also believe in order to enjoy sex you don't have to watch porn with eachother, if it's all about warming eachother up for sex then I would have to say you might be lacking somewhere else in your relationship. Maybe it's the love part and not the sex part, because there must be love in sex so therefore, there's never shame and always exceptness.
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how do you know you love someone?
"How do you know you love someone?"
Hi this is Ashley, I believe love is something that can only be defined by you... because it's based on your own beliefs. For example, I think love is patience, and security. I also think in order to love someone you must know who made this so called feeling and be able to accept the other person for himself/herself. Something I look at is... if I have doubts of myself I'm always prepared to have doubtful love toward a person.
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Well, I'm 19 and I am in my first year of college. At orientation I met this girl who is great and we hung out most of the summer. I really like her but we both have busy schedules with work and school and we haven't seen eachother that much lately. I dont know if I should cut my work hours or what.
Hi, my name is ashley... it sounds as if you want to spend more time with her, am I right? Sometimes being in college can be kind of hectic every now and then especially when you're working, but if you two are wanting to get to know eachother more and develop a better relationship then maybe you both can sit down and share one another's schedules and work... maybe you and her can study together. Work is always going to be there, but don't stress your self out about it... If I were you I would work hard and when you're able to spend time with her then treasure the moments. Don't worry about it... if it's meant to be I have know doubt that the little time shared with one another will matter.
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