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I'm in love with a boy who is 4 years older than me!
ok so my name is gina and i am 15 and im in lovee with a guy who is 19. our families have been friends since we were born, so we've known eachother for a long time. when i was little, i had a hugee crush on him. and around two years ago, i had a huge crush on him. as the years went on i knew that we would never be together and i started getting over him. but we just went on vacation together about a week ago. his family and my family. and all of those hidden mixed emotions came back. and now i have a huge crush on him once again! haha. but i don't know if he knows that i have a huge crush on him or if he's having mixed emotions like i am. because, well we text, like all the time! sometimes i start it and sometimes he does. well the day that we were leaving vacation, i texted him, asking him how his trip back is and i was being all friendly and stuff. but he never texted back, and my phone said that he did receive it. at first, it was no big deal. but just yesterday i texted him again, and i was like "hey, i miss vacation soo much! don't you?!" i was being nice and friendly. soo here's how he responded "yep." thats it! i don't know if i should give up on him or take a chance. and i dont know if hes mad at me and if so, should i ask him if he's mad at me? please someone give me advice! i dont know ifs he into me, or if hes just being nice. i mean he flirts with me all the time! and we text a lot too! but i seriously don't know if something made him hate me or mad at me. and i dont know if i should text him and ask him if he's mad at me! well obviously as you all see, i am veryyy mixed up! so please help me!
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I completely agree with the answer below- texting (just like email) has got to be the most impersonal form of communication. You cannot tell exactly how the other person feels or what they're thinking. Do not text him back asking if he's mad at you. It will make you seem weak, and will probably throw him off or even annoy him. You just have to wait; the ball is in his court now.
Also, keep in mind that guys tend to be very frank and to-the-point with their messages. Do not be put off by a simple, "yep." You asked him a simple question ("don't you?"), and he gave you a simple answer. Wait and see if he calls you back, or texts. But do not text him too much, you will appear to be desperate.
Now, there is a four-year age difference between the two of you, and as you mentioned, you two pretty much grew up together. He might only see you as a family-friend or he might think you're too young for him. But anyway, as I said, it's up to him to call you or whatever, if he is interested. You have to wait, and in the meantime, do not think things over too much. Forget the whole texting thing...to me, texting is only good for confirming appointments or setting a place/time to meet- simple things. Conversations cannot come about through texting. So if you really want to keep in touch with this guy, you have to step up to the plate and communicate normally. If he does not respond positively, if at all, then you have got to get over him.
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Take a deep breath, and leave it alone for a few weeks.
If he hasn't texted you by then, give him an actual phone call, and ask him if he is okay, busy, upset or whatever.
Texting is completely impersonal! Texting alone will not evolve into a relationship.
It's an easy and cowardly form of communication and frankly, a slightly annoying one. NEVER try to discuss anything serious over a text message. Not only will it take forever and probably be misunderstood, it makes you seem like a chicken-shit who can’t handle a real conversation. If you really want to connect with someone, call them up and actually TALK.
You can't guess what a person is thinking for a few lines of text. Don't even try. It's just impossible.
If you really want to know what is on someone's mind, you'll just have to be a bit braver then that.
So, to spell it right out: do NOT text him and ask if he is mad. That seems pitiful and desperate. Let it go for a while and if he doesn't connect with you, connect with him after a long enough time that your concern would actually seem rational, instead of silly.
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