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lying boyfriend
17/f
I have been with my boyfriend about two years, and he's always been kind of a liar. we've been through a million fights about him lying (but they were never really huge lies worth leaving him over)and things always got better. Lately I thought we were doing really well, until I started going out of town to see my grandma and such. Everytime I left for the weekend, he did something shady then lied about it. Again, they weren't really huge lies, just annoying.
Lately I think he's hiding things from me, and I just want him to tell me so I can deal with it. I have no evidence or anything (that's the problem), so he just keeps on denying, but it's bothering the hell out of me. I'm just starting to realize how sneaky he is, and I REALLY feel like there's more going on than he's telling me. But I have no way of finding out, he hides EVERYTHING.
What should I do? What should I say???
p.s. I love him so much, an yes despite everything i do believe he loves me (he says he lies bc he doesn't want me to get mad, but i don't really understand that bc i NEVER get mad when he tells me the truth). I just want to know so we can work it out. I feel like I can't handle this lack of trust and if he doesn't tell me I'll leave him for good. I tried telling him that flat out and he just denied there was anything... it's really frustrating.
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A big part of a relationship is honesty and trust.
1. If you can't trust the person then technically there is no relationship. If you believe you're boyfriend did something "shady" behind your back I think it's time to sit with the guy and let it out. Tell him how it makes you feel, Let him know it bothers you and how it makes you think and feel. Take some time to ask yourself, Is he REALLY worth the lie?
2. Although you love him, If he can't be honest with you, The best bet might be to try and move on. If he loves you enough he will be open and honest and respect your feelings no matter what or how bad it might be.
Best of Luck
-BahaiMa22
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why are you still with him?
Think about it. Do you love him because you think he's the only one available to you? Because he's not. There's honest guys out there who wouldn't lie to you or hide things from you.
There is absolutely no way this can be worked out. Anything you attempt, he'll lie about.
Just leave.
Leave and don't look back. No matter how much you love him. Just leave and don't look back. At first, it'll feel like you really want to get back together with him but in reality, you don't.
cheers,
stargirl
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