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Does this mean anything? Or does it not matter because he was drunk?
I guess I'm wondering... do you think people's real feelings come out when they are drunk? Since they are more laid back and don't have as much of a fear reflex? There's more of a story but I wanted opinions on this question too.
I, and a boy I have developed slight feelings for, do not drink at home. We went on a school trip to Germany together, where it is legal to drink at our age... I didn't drink enough for it to affect me but he was a little drunk. I was cold and he told me I could sit on his leg and he would keep me warm unless it was too awkward, and I did. He kept asking me like "are your legs cold?" and then he would like rub them a little to keep them warm... and if my hands were cold... He also asked "what would your boyfriend think about this?" (we were like in the process of breaking up at the time) to which I replied "I don't know, it doesn't matter" and he just said yea. I know from what I've seen that (guys at least) seem a little more um touchy-feely when they've been drinking... but do you think this could be any little hint at liking me at all? Or should I not even really consider it because he was drunk?
Thanks.
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Copping a feel is not about respect. Liking you usually means different things to a guy than a girl. Drinking does lower inhibitions, like logic and wisdom, not to mention fear of natural consequences in most people. That is why we love it first and hate it afterwards. The bigger question is why do you think a guy has to be drunk to dig you? If he is going about putting his arms on lots of girls, then he might be just flirty or looking to score. Why bother with that kind of guy unless you are the same kind of girl. To have any other expectations of him will only lead to heartache.
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First off, I dont really agree with the answer below. Your real feelings may come out when you are drunk, but similarly, it may also just accentuate one aspect of your emotions/ desire. As human beings we are complete packages of reason and emotion... drinking kills some of these things and brings out others. That does not neccessarily mean that we are more truthful drunk.
I mean, amongst people who drink, a lot of mistakes are made. People hook up with people they have no feelings for, sometimes people they find outright repulsive. One gets a lot less picky drunk, and often one may say things one regrets the next day. Thats not a sign that their innermost feelings are coming forward, its a sign of a lack of reasoning or a heigthened sense of lust.
Anyhow, that being said, from what you describe he probably does like you. It sounds like the booze is giving him the courage to approach you. If you have broken up with your boyfriend, why not approach him when you are sober and see how you interact without booze.
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Yes I believe people's true feelings are able to come out when they are drunk. Like the saying goes a "drunk mind speaks a sober heart", basically that people have the nerve to say things when they're drunk that they wouldn't normally on a day to day sober basis. However, when people say things when they are drunk their minds are everywhere so they aren't able to explain what they really might mean so things can be greatly misunderstood.
As for this guy, its kind of a hard thing to decide on if he may like you. Keep in mind that not only guys get touchy feely when they are drunk, but also girls (just a little added information).
Anyways, some guys are just flirtatious in general so you may want to check out how he act with you when he is sober. If he is still touching you and asking you about your boyfriend it could mean that he in fact like you, but he could also just be curious because for some reason guys like to push the limits just to be curious about your relationship with others.
If he still acts the same sober as he does drunk then i think there is a higher chance of him liking you because when you're drunk your mind is all over the place so maybe in his instance he was just relaxed and was "exploring" his options due to a foggy mind.
Sorry if my advice was confusing, but you basically just need to see how he acts with you when he's sober rather than drunk.
It never hurts to think someone likes you, if anything it can boost your confidence which may boost them into having feelings for you if they didn't before. =] Don't worry about it too much and go with the flow. =]
With Love,
Kori
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