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the ex coming back
im dating this guy and i really do love him. one day my ex texted me ( first time we talked since he cheated on me 7 months ago & in that time i got over him cheating and im completely fine w/ it now). i texted him back to see what he wanted and at first we talked about getting our stuff back and such. for some reason i liked talking to him again and it seemed like nothing ever changed between us. then he started saying he still loved me and wanted me back and for me to leave my bf and he\'d leave him gf. i dont know if it brought back feelings or what but it made me feel bad so i had to tell my bf & he didnt understand how i could talk to him after he cheated on me. i was confused so i went to my bestfriend for help and she didnt want me to go back to my ex cause she loves how good my bf is to me. so i had to make a decision and i chose my bf and i figured that me & my ex would stop talking but no we've talked a lot lately and he swears its only as friends and that he'd never take me back since i turned him down. i dont know im really confused how i feel about him , i dont want to stop talking to him but i know that us talking is wrong, i think maybe i just liked how he wanted me back. im not really sure. and we dont live that far apart so i will see him at games when our schools play eachother and random places and i dont know how i'll be when i see him cause i havent seen him since. im just really confused and idk what to do. please help
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it's normal to miss your ex, of course. especially since when you guys first dated, he cheated on you. therefore at that time, you assumed you weren't good enough for him. & now he wants you back, you finally feel good enough.
you like that extra attention you're receiving, especially since it's not just from your current boyfriend.
i can't tell you what to do.
but i've been in a situation very similar. my boyfriend of well over a year broke up with my randomly. he completely crushed my world. i was sooo devastated. then i met someone, 11 months later. we fell in love & he & i have been together for 8 months now. it had been a little over a year since me & my ex broke up & he got in contact with me. he wanted me back.
i was soo confused, and i didn't know what to do.
so i evened out the odds:
- i was happy with my current boyfriend (are you?)
- i was so hurt when my ex broke up with me (were you?)
- "once a cheater always a cheater" (do you believe that?)
- who could make you happier?
if someone has let you down before, they are going to do it again. i'm sorry, but it's true.
& for him to come back to you, WHILE he has a girlfriend shows no decency WHATSOEVER. especially since technically, he's cheating on her now with you. which means, he's still cheating.
if he really wanted you back, he would have broken up with his girlfriend, first, to show that he really does want you.
all in all, he's probably jealous that you're happy.
& he's dangling you on a string because he knows that you think about him in the back of your mind.
you know who you truly want to be with.
& you've heard my opinion, so go make your decision.
good luck.
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