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Am i just REALLY bad luck?
Ok for some reason when something goes missing, people blame me. Even in my own house. Like 2 years my best friends parents started to tell everyone in our naberhood(i know its not spelled right) i stole from there house because everytime i left something was missing. But Never in my life have i ever stole anything but 1 guys heart ;) And that doesnt count. And then my best friend started to hate me. Well then no one in the naberhood would hang out with me. And this was a white family and im half black..(no offence to anyone.) and then 4 months later, they found all that stuff. There dog hid it all. By then all the parents in the naberhood hated me. Well like today i was on a MMORPG i play. And one of my friends, the minute i logged on he was like "what the hell "Lacey" Give me back my account." and i was like what are you talking about? he was like "Someone was on my account and like 20 seconds after they logged out of my account you logged on." and i was like "no i didnt. i just got out of the shower." and he was like "i bet" so i got sick of it and i was like "back the hell off ok. I didnt do it." and im tried of being thought of as a theif. Because im clearly not. Then like 10 seconds later, his account logged back on. So it showed him it wasnt me. But if he accused me and hes never met me, and someone who knows my accused me, what is it im doing that makes people think im a theif? Is it because im half black? Is it because i have bad luck and im at the wrong place at the wrong time. And also thats how its always been. Im done. PLease tell nme what you think
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Well I can certainly understand your frustration and although I don't have an exact explanation about what is happening, I do have some suggestions for you, in general. For whatever reason, things happened in the past (the dog for example) that put into your head and other people's heads that you are, at worst, a thief and at best, bad luck.
The bad luck thing can be tricky, because once we start to believe something negative about ourselves, it can grow and grow until we start to actually manifest bad luck in our lives and draw more negative experiences to us. Let me be clear. I AM NOT saying any of this is your fault, but I am saying that all you have power over is your own thoughts and feelings. You can decide - right now - today - that bad luck has no place in your life - that only good things, good people, good experiences are allowed in your life. If you believe it and focus on it (everyday), things will start to shift away from the negative. I know it sounds kooky, but what have you got to lose. Your thoughts are powerful and they can work for you or against you, so why not put them to good use.
As far as people feeling negatively about you because you are "half black" as you say, please know that anyone who feels that way is not worth your time, effort or your stress. However, it is important that YOU love yourself: all parts of you.
In short, if you keep yourself in a place of positivity (not allowing the negative in) and in a place of integrity (no lying, cheating or stealing) and in a place of empowerment (loving every part of yourself) - nobody can hurt you. If you keep yourself in this space, the right kind of friends will be drawn to you and those people with judgments and false accusations will just fall away, out of your life.
I know this was pretty heavy and I hope that you give it some thought. Best of luck to you.
Kind wishes,
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