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relationship in trouble
First of all I would like to say that your advice was great. My boyfriend is a nervous wreck he analyzes everything we say and do to eachother. He feels like he doesn't know how to act around me now. We used to be so close and comfortable with eachother,I never saw these changes in our relationship coming. We love eachother dearly and both are very scared that we may lose eachother. I think we are letting our fears break our bond. I don't know what to do. I explained to him how I feel but nothing is helping him relax. I suggested going to relationship counceling or maybe he needs to see a psychiatrist. We were both hurt in a previous relationship and dont want to hurt again. I need advice really bad.All he can think about is losing me,and doing something wrong instead of just moving on in our relationship.
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I've only answered one relationship question
recently so I remember you. I think. LOL!
Your story really touched me. I felt so badly
for you both. Interracial relationships
should be easier now than they were before,
and they probably are to a certain extent,
but they still have their problems.
It may take relationship counceling to get
you both past this. I don't know if a good
long talk would do the trick or not. Its
worth a shot I think.
If you want to make it work out you will
have to learn to communicate with each other,
but in a way that doesn't hurt each others
feelings.
If you are both scared of losing each other
the love is there. You just need to get
pass this one thing. You have to learn
that he may say something sometimes that
hurts your feelings. You know the kind
of person he is, you know he is just
comfortable enough to joke with you about
ANYTHING.
He needs to understand that you love him.
No matter what he might say. He needs to
know you will get over it. You want him to
see you not your race. And that may be his
biggest hurdle right now. All of a sudden
he is seeing you as a black woman. He got
comfortable with you and FORGOT that! I
personally think that is wonderful.
For it to work out you will need to try
and be less sensitive. I know its oh so
hard not to be, but you know the person
he really is. Tell him. You want to make
a life together, neither of you should
have to watch your every word.
I know you can work it out. Please let
me know how it goes. I want to hear you
have worked it out and will be getting
married soon. :)
I really wish I could be more help. Its so
hard when you don't know the whole story.
Hope I have given you some things to ponder
though. My email address is on my column
should you want to use it, feel free to
do so. Just put advicenators in subject
line so I know it isn't spam. :)
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