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Hello everyone =)
So my boyfriend and I have been having sex for a while, but I still haven't cum. My boyfriend is starting to feel bad, I suppose, because he feels he can't pleasure me enough, though I really think he can. And our last time, he sincerely asked me if I'm trying not to cum, which took me off guard, 'cause I thought it'd be natural, and now I don't know if I have to do something as well.
Is there anyway I can help make myself? I mean, I thought it'd just happen, but do I have to do anything?
Thanks so much!
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Wow, did not take long for him to blame you. Well, he is probably just feeling insecure. However, a blaming game in this arena prevents anyone from winning. Since you both sound inexperienced it will require patience and practice in a relaxed setting where you are totally in control of your own body and emotions. If this is not how you feel with this guy, maybe he is not the one for you, or you may be unready still for a serious physical relationship. You can accomplish more on your own if this is the case and later instruct or show your partner how to please you. Most women require an encouraging and supportive partner, oral stimulation or manual, and some a vibrator to discover what a true orgasm is. It is definately worth pursuing, but not stressing over. Insecurity pushes the big O away from you, while steady practice and confidence will bring you what you seek. What you need to "do" is find out for yourself what you want and not over think it. Women tend to overthink everything and not just let go and let themselves enjoy sex. Of course, this will come with maturity. I hope this takes a little of the mystery out of it, but not too much. There is a great deal of mystery and magic when it comes to human sexuality and that is part of the fun, so embrace it.
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I'm the same way. I've never had an orgasm during sex. Even though I've never tried it, as weird as it sounds, too, I've heard that it really helps if you play with yourself during sex.
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