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urghhh family from the east
help!!please i cant stand this any longer i hate them all! well no its a love-hate relationship helpppp....
ok i am 22 and i am from a godforsaken traditional family (and no i don't live in the states or canada or europe or whatever) i am just there to study. i can't stand it! i am here to learn and yet all what i've learned should be abolished as the talk of the devil! i can't even major in what i want to major in and let alone choose the city or career or the duration.... any mistake is entirely my own.. i hate what i am doing and i hate where it is going... i should go back when i am done work there and get married! i hate my parents they consider me a prostitute and so i have to do everything i deem normal and ok behind everyone's back! i hate living a double life!!!! help me please. i can't get away and i can't leave or talk or do anything... i use to think there is a way out of it and now when i am "older and done with college" i still dont see that way out that i thought i would!! i want to kill myself and get rid of this! i know i have an unsatisfied zest for life but now i am loosing it and it's not motivating me to liveee!
i don't even know why i am writing this! is there anyone who went through something similar?
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I am going to tell you something that I want you to take it seriously, take it to your heart:
This is YOUR life. YOU have to live it. Not your mom, not your dad, but YOU.
This sounds really cliche, but it really is true. Your family wants what's best for you, they want what they think is right, even if you don't enjoy it. No parent wants to see their child fail, because that makes them feel like it's their fault and they have failed as parents. They just want you to have a secure, stable life.
Now, it's better to bit your lip and say something instead of not trying at all. Until then, nothing will change. You will live unhappily. From what you have said, you made yourself believe that this is not in your control. Like I said, this is YOUR life. If you choose not to fight for it, for yourself and your future, then you have no freedom. Just let go of your fear and fight for it.
I'll let you in on a little secret about my family. I am the youngest in my family, but I'm also the black sheep. I didn't follow the same paths as my sisters. They're delusional and brainwashed, because unlike them, I listened to my heart and led my own life. But look... They are the ones who are unhappy. I am the happiest I've ever been. My sister who is two years older than me, ENVIES me. She wish she had my life, because she doesn't even control her own. She followed the pack and did what she THOUGHT was right, when in her heart she knew it wasn't. She doesn't even know who she is anymore.
It's not easy to stand up to your family. Every day feels like a constant fight, but like I said, this is YOUR life; not their's. My family may not agree with me, but they haven't kicked me to the curb. You have to be a really strong person, but it IS possible. You have to think about how bad do you want it?
What I'm saying is, you can live your life with regret and pain, but you will only have yourself to blame.
Best of luck. Feel free to message me if you feel like talking more about this :)
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