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in response to the answer you gave me...
I was the one who asked the question about getting back with my ex...
I appreciate your advice, it's very helpful. But I think you misunderstood. He didn't just come out and say, I think we should have sex. We never had sex when we were going out before either, so he shouldn't have any reason to expect it. However he WAS hinting at it playfully. And I was playing along to an extent but then it got carried away and I just want him to know that I'm not easy.
Anyways, are there any signs to know if he really cares about me, or if he just wants someone to please him?
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It doesn't matter who the guy is, we all want sex, that's a given. Time is the best test of what a guy really wants, hold out on him for as long as it takes to satisfy you that it is not all that he wants. Most guys who are solely focused on one thing will only take a certain amount of time to get it before he moves on. This varies from number of dates, to number of months. If you are both still young, then make it a matter of years, at least that is what you make him think. If you are say, 16 or younger, tell him you don't intend to have sex until you are at least 18. If your 18, tell him you won't until you're 21, or out of college, or something along that line. If you're older, pick another dead line, like not until I'm married, or until we've been together for one, or maybe two years.
Signs are very hard to read, there are a lot of people who will do what they think will get them what they want, so you can never really trust signs. Trust tests, test him, see his reaction, so many people will say one thing, yet do another. "You are not what others think you are. You are not what you think yourself to be. You are what your actions reveal you to be." That is what dating is all about, you are waiting for him to reveal his true self, don't think twice about pushing him to reveal himself, you'll waste a lot less time that way.
Be sure you know his core dear spirit as well as your own.
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