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An old love
I have known my ex boyfriend since we were 13 years old (I'm now 22). We dated for 5 years off and on and we were very much in love. We broke up due to the fact that we have always lived very far from each other. Throughout college we kept in touch. I recently just graduated and he came to my graduation (his cousin graduated from the same college as me so he was there really for him). After seeing me at graduation he started to come back in my life more and more. He has been calling me and speaking to me everyday. He just got out of a serious relationship so he would mainly be calling me for advice on his recent ex girlfriend. I am currently in a serious relationship and although I am extermely happy I still have feelings for my ex. He claims he still has feelings for me too but he keeps going back and forth on whether or not to get back with his ex or not. I feel lost and I don't want to hurt my current boyfriend. I recently told my ex that I couldn't talk to him about his ex anymore because I knew I wouldn't be able to give him advice when I feel like my own feelings for him would get in the way. He said he wouldn't bother me about it anymore. What should I do? Should I stop talking to him altogether? I have already told him how I feel but I feel like it hasn't accomplished anything. My current boyfriend and I are very close and I try to be as honest with him as possible. Lately I know I have been distant with him and that I run the risk of losing my current relationship for someone who might not even want to be in a relationship with me.
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From what i know it seems you havent been able to forget about your ex. I suggest you let him know exactly how you feel, and ask him if he feels the same for you. If the answer is yes you should tell him what does he plan to do about it. If you feel like you two will get anywhere i think you should tell your boyfriend in on what is going on seems like you too have an open relationship and its better to let him in now on what you are feeling that wait more time and hurt him more.
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When you get very close to some one and then you break up for reasons of living to far away, you still harbor feelings for that person. When the ex gets back in the picture its hard because all those old feelings you felt with him are still there, and rush back to you.
You should see weather your ex actually wants to get back with you, or if he really just wants to get back with his recent ex.
If he doesn't want you theres nothing you can do even if you like him more then your current boy friend.
But if he wants you back then my advice would be to make 2 lists.
One of pros of both your ex and current bf. One of cons of both your ex and current bf.
This will help you see whom you like better, try to think future wise also. Will this guy be good with kids (if you want any) Is he marriage material? Steady job?
Hope it helped
!InsaneChildz~
15/m
P.S. I know im only 15 what do i know anyway =]
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Hey! I'm so sorry your in this predicament, i hope I can help!
Well, the thing you need to think about is the fact that if your boyfriend hid something like this from you, you'd be hurt, real hurt, but also take into consideration if you do talk about it with him then there is the chance that it severely upsets him.
And the point that you brought up, that your ex boyfriend might not even get back with you is a good thing to consider too, because there is a good chance that if you left your current guy for your ex guy you could be left with nothing.
Honestly, i don't think your current boyfriend deserves to get screwed over, i mean you seem in love with him, I think it's time you gave your current man a chance.
It will only make it harder on yourself, and your relationship if you continue talking to him.
It's your call, I'm just trying to do what I think would work out best for you. =)
Best of luck!
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