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should i wait
so me and my guy friend are best friends. he liked me in 7th grade and then again earlier this year. i liked him too but we never told each other. he has this on again off again girlfriend who he went out with and broke up with nine times. so him and his girl had been broken up for about 2 months, she had another boyfriend so i finally decided to tell my guy that i liked him once again and i had heard through a mutual friend that he liked me again. so i told him and he informed me that his ex girlfriend had called him the day before to let him know that she was breaking up with her current boyfriend and wanted to give their relationship another shot....(as if the first 9 times didnt make it clear that it doesnt work out). so he said "i know you would make an amazing girlfriend and i like you but i want to try it with her one more time". so he's currently going out with his ex....AGAIN. who only causes him misery and since im the best friend i get to hear him complain about her all the time. now i really really REALLY like him and his parents think i "fit in the family" which means a lot to me. now we all know that this relationship isnt going to last and hes going to break up with his girlfriend for the thousandth time and he's already called me saying "i cant believe i went out with her again when i had a much better option" and then in the middle of that phone conversation his girlfriend called. i got put on hold and then when he answered the phone again him and his girlfriend had stopped fighting and everything was good again. he says he wants to be with me but he doesnt want me to wait around for him because he would feel guilty and greedy for wanting me to do that. basically hes the most amazing friend and i know that he would be an amazing, caring boyfriend.
ok that was part one of my problem.
part two.
so he says not to wait around for him...so maybe i wont. ok so my uncle's girlfriend and my mom are really good friends. my uncle's girlfriend has been trying to set me up with her grandson all my life. he's the same age as me, tall dark and handsome, smart, oh yeah..and his dad owns an island. we had a playdate once when we were about six years old where we had an accident with a hammock and i ended up with a black eye...casued by him but he felt really bad. other than that i havent seen or talked to him except for today...when i saw him in the dentist's office and i have to say i was impressed. it would make both our families incredibly happy if we got together but i've never really had a conversation with him. i added him on facebook but im not sure that he knows who i am but i have thousands of connections to this kid.
so do i sit around and wait for a guy who has loved me for years(this could take anywhere from 2 weeks to 5 months) or do i try and start something new with this kid??
sorry this turned out so long.
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Well it is all up to you.
Your friend seems to be caught up in a loop of break ups which could keep going on again and again for a long time. But eventually they will stay broken up for good.
If it is true what you say about 2 weeks - 5 months then i say wait for him. But while waiting get to know this new kid. Try to hang out with this kid and get to know him better. You might even end up liking him more then your childhood friend. If that isn't the case then just go out with your childhood friend when he and is girl friend eventually break up
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I think you should try things with the other kid. Your best friend will always be there and if it is meant to be, it'll happen. Just give it time. But honestly, don't wait aorund. Try to get to know the other kid. You told you best friend how you feel. The ball is in his court, let him decide whats more important, andother heart break or true love. You have plenty of time to find love. The best advice I can give you is to listen to your heart, and don't ever settle for something that doesn't feel right.
All the best
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