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leaving best friend..after highschool
So I have a best friend. We are both 17, going to be seniors in highschool this august, graduating '09. I plan on moving away to florida - we currently live in michigan. Whenever I talk to her about my decision, she seems to act like she doesn't 'care'. And I know she does, but she doesn't like to think about it, because she's afraid whats going to happen to "her" - she's admitted to being selfish about the subject, because I make friends so easily, it doesn't matter where I go. She on the other hand does not, and I guess you could call her... socially awkward?
I just .. I dont want this to sound mean. But I will not stay home after I graduate just because she doesn't want me to go. Is that horrible? I'm not happy here at all. It would make me miserable to have to stay here any longer than I need to. I know she'll have to understand that. But am I a bad person for wanting to do this for me? Should I be staying here with her?
thanks!
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You are not being selfish at all!!!! You cannot stay in one place because of one person! Dont let her hold you back on your dreams if you belong in Florida she will have to get over it and once you graduate then pack up and go to Florida, there is no reason for you to stay back just because of her. You might want to tell her that she can come and visit you once you move and you can come up and visit her when you go to see family sense Im pretty sure you will go back and visit for someone.... Dont let her mess up your future. You could possibly sit down with her and help her come up with a plan of what she can do after you graduate, so maybe she dosent feel as lost without you, she needs to step out of her bubble with you and talk to more people, she will meet new people and make friends at her future job..... If she dosent have you around once you leave then she will be forced to meet and talk to mroe people.... In a way I kind of think that she is being sheltered by you if that makes any sense.... hope this helps, but please dont let other people get in the way of your dreams!
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