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so i've never been in a relationship before... i am 18/f..... i have many guy friends (some were even best friends) and i've been comfortable with them all (and they the same) yet... i've never had a boyfriend or been in a romantic relationship before... i am not bothered by it especially since i am the one being picky about who i should be with... i've always been content with limiting things to friendship.... and after a while i develop feelings and feel like they are just silly infatuations because i respect and enjoy the company of these guys... but usually i get over it (or screw up the friendship by backing off) today i was taking one of those personality disorder tests online and one of the questions they asked was what makes me the happiest? among the options was romantic relationship and i didn't know what to choose because i have never experienced it... i mean i don't know if i'll be my happiest then ... the image i have in my head offcourse is a fairy tale... again i am fine with that.... i just don't feel like relationships are all what they are cut out to be let alone whether or not i should be happy.... i knw this question lacks structure or logic... and i guess in the end i'm saying is love something that you choose or its, well does it just happen?
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I think that just depends on people's personality and preference.. I'm 17/f and I'm just like you. I really haven't had big crushes on anyone, let alone boyfriends.
Also just like you, I'm not too sure of this either but this is what I see:
You can search for love, or it can just happen randomly.. Or it can be a mixture of both.
If you're happy without having a relationship right now, then .. why worry? Being picky is ok..
If you don't feel 100% about this, then any relationship you have will be weak because of your lack of interest..
So why not wait until you find a guy you feel fairly comfortable with?
I do think that being friends first is a very nice way to go into a romantic relationship.. So don't be so quick to shun away from your friends when one is "liking" you. They truly care about you and- obviously- those are the kinds of guys who should be your boyfriend.
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As a general rule, I think love is just something that happens. However, you don't always have to be in a relationship to fall in love. For example, if you're best friend was a guy, over time you could begin to fall in love with him because of his personality and you could also be attracted to him and want a physical relationship with him, making it more than a "brother-sister" type love. I mean you have to be open to loving someone so in that way you choose it, but you can't just say I'm going to fall in love. When you're in a caring relationship with someone who appreciates you and respects you and makes you feel happy, then it is more likely that you will grow to love each other. I hope this helped.
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