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wrong to flirt?
okay, my friend A went out with this guy T, but then they broke up. it was a mutual desision; anyway now my friend is really happy with this other guy, her on - off boyfriend, anyway, now i REALLY like T but my question is, is it wrong to flirt and maybe if im lucky more than that woth T seeing as he's A's ex? i know the whole ' never date your friends ex's,' but if she's happy with this other guy; i was wonderingif it's okay?
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No,it isn't ok. Why? it's the whole moral of it. Your friend may be happy with the other guy and I guarantee you that if you talk to her about your interest in her X, she isn't going to like it. She may act as if she's cool with it but seriously she won't be - reverse it and put yourself in her situation, Would you like it? or would you question why he or she would hook up after you were with him? be honest with yourself if you chose not to be honest with me.
It's not an easy situation and it causes confusion, and distance in your friendship when this happens. How would you share things with her about what you and him have done or have planned? It would be awkard, you would also end up feeling guilty as time goes on which would cause you to break up with him or him to break up with you. Many people feel differently on this subject as I have read their answers. I do believe in doing what makes you happy as a person, however I also believe in longevity,which means happiness later on as well not just for the moment. It would also raise a ? with your friend, which would be - did she like him while I was with him? which leads to trust issues. NO MAN OR GUY IS WORTH A FRIENDSHIP or even taking a risk with a friendship.
guess what else? the fact that you are questioning the situation tells me that inside you are questioning self as to if it's right or wrong - remember this: anything questionable is not worth doing, seeing, wearing, saying, or acting upon in general. I promise!
Hope this helps!!
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The only way you'll find out is to ask your friend how she think she'd feel about it, if she say's ok then go for it, but you would have to make sure she's still ok if anything was going to get serious because she might think she is going to be ok, but after she's seen you together or whatever she might not really like it. Make sure you find out how she feels because if you dont you might end up losing her over it, and its not worth that.
Sarah Lou
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