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ehh..finger?
alright so far i've madeout and been felt up underneath the bra. i've been at this step for about a year and a couple monthes. i've been waiting to get fingered but im unsure because its really a big step to me. i'm dating this guy and we've dated before but then it didnt work out at the time.we've went out for about a month the first time and now this time its just about a month coming up. i was thinking about letting him finger me but i dont know. im just afraid of a few things. like what will people say? and what if hes bad at doing it because hes only did it with one other girl. im also afraid its gunna hurt. i dont know what to do while hes doing that to me lol. when you get fingered do they take off your pants or just go down them? please help me out with this. :]thankss
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You've been waiting... So I take it you want to.
People won't say anything if you don't tell anybody, and you let this bloke know that you want to keep it between the two of you. But you must make sure that this guy isn't going to 'love you and leave you' if this step means so much to you. Make sure beforehand that you can trust him. As in, make sure that this relationship is going to last more than a month. If he get's pushy and tries to finger you before you tell him that you're ready, it shows that that's all he wants. That's when you should leave and forget about him.
But if you give him the go ahead. Which I hope you are certain about. Be confident in yourself.
It shouldn't hurt if he uses one finger, you're in the mood, and if you feel ready. It may hurt, if you're unsure as to whether you feel confident enough, if you feel ready, of if he, straight away, uses more than one finger. So my advice is, when you are ready, make him start with one, and then tell him if you can handle more. (May want to check hand and finger size lol)
If he's bad at doing it, well... tell him what you want him to do. Be specific. He'll want to know what makes you feel good, so that he can 'hit the spot' over and over again.
When he fingers you, do what feels natural. You should feel comfortable with him for letting him be so intimate with you. I, personally, like to be up against a wall or lying down, with him close to my front, facing me, eye to eye. He'll lean down so that he can reach, and at that point I would hold on to his shoulders, with my head leaning against his cheek. Your legs will know what to do lol. You can show him that you're enjoying it be gently and seductively biting his earlobe and gently digging your nails into his back. Groaning is acceptable too, it'll show him that you're enjoying yourself. Heavy breathing is just as good though. And if you're feeling REALLY brave, look him in the eye while he enters you.
If your outside, just lower your pants, but if you're indoors and alone with him, and you're not scared to, I don't see why you shouldn't take them right off. Baring in mind that he may think you're wanting sex.
Good luck my dear =]
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okay personally if your this worked up over it then chances are your not ready for it.. how long you've known him/been dating him, doesnt matter.. its when your comfortable and ready.. most people tend to think they are then they do it.. and later on feel weird about it that they wish they could take it back. if he cares enough about you hes not going to trip out about it, he'll be kind enough to wait, if not, hes not for you.
it truly shouldn't hurt that bad.. and in all honesty, hes your boyfriend, so if he doesnt it "bad" to you.. then tell him as hes doing what to fix.. like i said if your ready for it you'll be comfortable enough to tell him and he wont care. another thing, dont worry about other people.. they always talk but in reality it comes down to just you and your man.
alright hope i helped (:
good luck girl. (:
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