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I feel really hurt by my best friend
You see my best friend is dating this guy that used to flirt and play around with me a lot last year. I mean he really hurt me but he was stupid and immature, he's a better guy now, or at least i like to think so. He does seem like it. Anyway, my friend asked me at least five times if it was ok with me for her to go out with him and i said sure. And i meant it my feelings are pretty much gone for him. But you see she keeps saying that any day now he's gonna leave her for me. She came up to me a few weeks ago asking me if i still have feelings for him and i said i didn't. I said he just toyed with me last year cause he was immature and then she said all dramatically 'no, he said he loved you.'. and she walked off and i chased her down and took her by the shoulders and explained to her how much he loved her and NOT me. She seemed ok but she's not. Take in mind i have a very flirty personality but when i talk to her boyfriend i hold back drastically to avoid this exact accusation, i also rarely talk to him. The other day i found a paper in her books that had this scratchy violent handwriting calling me a whore a slut, saying her boyfriend will hurt her.. She put my name plus her boyfriends and then scratched out her boyfriends. I know she's going a little insane with paranoia and i told her i just don't know what to do. She found me with the note and tried to sell 'its not what it looks like' to me. I told her i didn't want her to feel like this and i would ignore him if she wanted but i know that even doing that wouldn't help since i barely talk to him as it is. I'm not mad at her just hurt and confused, i seriously don't know what to do. Please help
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you shouldnt be hrt by your friend. she is the one who is hurt. not by you. by her b.f. do you know if she has any trust issues? you might want to check into that. people who have had bad experiences with trust in relationships in the past ( like her parents divorce or a bad experience with another guy )may not let her be as open. she just doesnt want to get hrt again and thinks two people she cares about will abandon her. you need to let her know that you are there for her-no matter what. show her that you care in a special way. and if she doesnt understand after that.. it may take you telling her b.f in front of her that you dont have feelings for him, you used to but he hrt you, and that he should be happy with your friend because she is really special to you..
hope this helps!
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Well its obvious that your friend is not listening to you. Try talking to her boyfriend and ask him if her would clear things up with her letting her know he doesn't like you. If she hears from another person that might help her get it through her head. I also advice you to try your best to hold back on your flirty personality around him. You dont want him to be attracted to you again or that will really hurt your friends feelings. I hope this helped.
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