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I need help =(
I have an amazing boyfriend. We like each other SO much, everyone says we're cute together, our parents like that we're together, the whole deal.
The problem? He is a VERY stubborn person, and has the lowest self-confidence ever. If he's upset about something, he ignores me for a few days because he's worried I'll get mad at him. And if I try to tell him that I won't (through texting, and AIM) he gets madder because he gets upset that people care about him and are trying to help, because he HAS to do it on his own.
It makes me feel so useless when he does that. In a few days, when we're talking again and he's not upset (the latest upset was getting fired from a job he had for about six months, so he's totally justified in his anger) what can I say to him to make him realize that I could HELP him? Or at least get his mind off whatever's bothering him (whether this is sexually, or just through conversation, haha)
We're sixteen, almost 17, and seventeen, almost 18. He's older. And I am NOT breaking up with him over this, because it's a stupid reason to and I'm crazy about him.
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My boyfriend is stubborn too. So I understand what you are going through. From personal experience, there isn't much you can do at this point. I'm sure he loves/likes you (Or whatever the case may be at this point) but maybe he's just not ready to open up to you.
It took my boyfriend almost two years before he started talking to me about things that bothered him. The best thing you can do right now is not push him into talking to you, just let him come to you on his own. But always let him know you are there for him. Continue texting him during these times saying things unrelated to this problem. Tell him you love him and would like to talk to him. Say something like, I know you are upset, but lets go out and get your mind off stuff.
Whatever you do though, do not let him think he can walk all over you just because he's upset. Be sure he KNOWS that you love him, but being rude and ignoring you just because he's in a bad situation is not acceptable. Him getting mad because you text him is NOT acceptable. You are his girlfriend and you have a right to talk to him when he's happy and when he's sad. Tell him that too.
After this all blows over, continue letting him know that you love him. And tell him that when he's ready to open up to you, that you are ready to listen.
Good Luck with this situation. =]
Let me know how it all goes if you can.
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